This article is a follow-up to the article How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1 and consists of a unique cascading diagram that determines how likely someone is to cheat in a relationship. Without further ado I present to you the diagram, followed by some brief explanations of some of the key features…
The diagram below should be read from top to bottom as a series of steps, in descending order of importance:
Quality of relationship:
This is the first and most important step in the diagram. If someone is in a completely fulfilling relationship, or anything close to that ideal then they are unlikely to even contemplate being with anyone else, let alone actually taking steps towards it.
A completely fulfilling relationship is one that consummates all physical and emotional desires. If that is true, by definition, cheating will not occur.
If the relationship is anything below this ultimate level then the next step in the diagram comes into play…
Disposition towards cheating:
This step refers to the person in question’s personal views regarding cheating. It will largely be governed by their social experience so far in life and also their experience gained from previous relationships. It also relates to their moral upbringing regarding cheating and any personal realisations made along the way.
Someone who has a strict view towards infidelity – as modern society attempts to teach us – will never cheat on their partner, even if deep down they physically or emotionally want to. Anyone who has a more relaxed view regarding cheating, and who isn’t heavily influenced by modern culture, or simply doesn’t think about or concern themselves with infidelity much will pass through to the final step in the diagram…
The final step in the diagram is for the people who have passed through the previous two steps. This step refers to the social scenarios that the person in question finds themselves in, or to put it differently, how much opportunity someone has to cheat!
If someone has a fairly solitary or close-knit social life then they are unlikely to meet someone new who can lead them through new phases of attraction and seduction.
If their social life is more promiscuous and lavish then the chances of them meeting someone with the ability to do that will increase greatly. With this latter situation, it’s only a matter of time before someone “better” or more suited comes along. Coupled with their less than strict attitude towards cheating from the previous step, they are likely to cheat in such a situation.
This concludes the two-part series on how likely your partner is to cheat. Please feel free to ask any questions or add any opinions. 🙂