Having a movie evening with someone in any sort of romantic fashion requires a fair bit of commitment, so while it doesn’t make a particularly good first date, watching a movie together makes a great second or third date. I am by no means a movie expert, but I still occasionally get asked for movie recommendations suitable for dates, which is the inspiration for this article.
To be honest, the choice of movie is not all that important (although I will give some suggestions later in this article); it’s more about the time spent together and developing the interaction between the two of you. As long as the movie selection isn’t yawn-inducing, it should be fine. Having said that, in this article I will give a few things to think about regarding this topic, which conveniently ties in with how to make decisions on anything related to a date…
Choosing a movie for a date:
The reason watching a movie at home with someone you are romantically interested in is such a great idea in the early stages of dating is that it breeds familiarity and is an easy way to start building romantic intimacy and rapport, without too much pressure. Also, if you pick the right sort of movie, you can help curb the energy levels and emotional stimulus of the relationship, as explained in the following summary:
Worst movie choice = a movie that gets few emotional reactions out of its viewers.
Decent movie choice = a movie that gets lots of emotional reactions out of its viewers.
Best movie choice = a movie that gets lots of POSITIVE emotional reactions out of its viewers.
These may seem like obvious findings but if you think of all your favourite movies, you’ll be surprised how easily they spread across those three categories. For example, I’m a fan of documentary-style films, yet they are more for educational interest rather than tangible emotions.
When choosing a movie, think about whether it is going to incite positive emotions not only for yourself but also for the person you will be sharing the experience with.
How this relates to dates and activities in general:
It’s slightly counter-intuitive but any form of active emotional reaction, be it negative or positive, is actually better for creating attraction than neutral, passive or non-existent emotional reactions. Attraction is wholly built on the existence of emotional reactions – hence why “jerks” still attract women – yet a lot of men try to play it safe when it comes to dating. The reason for this is that pushing boundaries, even with positive intentions, comes with the risk of offending someone.
A confident and attractive person, although never intending to offend, is unapologetic for the way they are and the decisions they make.
Below is a crude diagram I have drawn to portray how attraction fluctuates with emotional input:
Obviously there is more to attraction than simply inducing emotions, but trying to make every activity you do as fun and stimulating as possible will definitely head you in the right direction.
Applying this to the topic of this article – movies to watch on a date – it is clear that not only should you choose a fun and stimulating movie, but you should also make it a fun and stimulating event as a whole!
Some personal movie recommendations:
There are so many classic films out there, with more being produced every year, that it would be impossible to give a concise list of all the best movies. Below are a few suggestions covering a number of common movie genres…
Horror movies: Saw franchise, Scream trilogy
The genre of movie that probably gets the most emotional reactions out of its viewers is the genre of horror movies. If you’re keen on choosing a horror movie, be aware that there are men and women out there who distinctly despise these sorts of movies and can manifest more than just casual fear within themselves. Make sure your date isn’t one of those people before sitting them down in front of a scary film!
Action/Thriller movies: Transformers, Kill Bill
Action and thriller movies follow a similar attitude to horror movies: people are generally either big fans or not interested in them. Either way, it’s hard to not get pumped up and excited whilst watching a classic thriller movie.
Comedy movies: Meet the Parents, Wedding Crashers, There’s Something about Mary
Comedy films are great for dates for obvious reasons. Laughing together is the best way to get into a happy state and enjoy yourselves.
There are hundreds of examples of comedy movies. Take a look at online movie review websites to discover new releases and highly-rated recommendations.
Feel-good movies: Forrest Gump, The Princess Bride, When Harry met Sally, Disney movies
Some men pretend not to enjoy movies like these, possibly to try and seem macho. The truth is that it’s very hard not to enjoy any of the movies I have listed above. They are very unisex and always leave viewers smiling with heart-warming plots and cheesy endings.
Sexual movies: Shortbus
If your new relationship has not become sexual yet and you would like it to, then watching a sexual-orientated movie together will get you both suitably aroused. I would use this with caution though, making sure you know for sure that this sort of thing won’t offend your date. Whilst the above movie does have a gripping storyline, it contains many scenes of an adult nature.
Childhood nostalgia: Labyrinth, The Land Before Time
Obviously this category varies between generations but assuming you are dating someone within a similar age-range to you, watching movies from your childhood is a great way of developing a closeness to someone. It’s like jumping back into your past together and sharing memories.
Do you have any recommendations to add to these categories?
A few extra things to think about are, as mentioned in ‘The perfect first date’, less emphasis should be put on the fact it is a date and more should be put on two people simply hanging out and having fun. An activity such as watching a movie together is merely a secondary element to advancing the relationship both emotionally and physically. You don’t want to be sitting there watching a movie in silence, no matter how great it is!
With all this being said, a great default choice for a movie if you don’t know your date very well yet, as with any date activity, is to choose something YOU will enjoy. Positivity is contagious and if you are having fun and enjoying yourself it will rub off on whoever you are with. 🙂