This article comprises of a practical assignment that will have a positive effect on many aspects of your life. If you’ve been following my twitter profile recently then you will have noticed that the lead up to this challenge revolves around thinking about the best compliments you have ever been given and how you felt when you received them.
The following complimenting challenge takes very little time out of your daily routine (in fact it is incorporated directly into it) and will have a profound effect on both your dating life and relationships…
The complimenting challenge for singles:
The complimenting challenge for singles is to compliment at least one stranger every day whilst going about your daily business, and doing so without any agenda.
The more creative you can be with your compliments the better. I would actually advise against complimenting physical attributes. It takes a high amount of social experience to deliver generic compliments about looks without sounding rapport-seeking.
Instead, design your compliments around something unique to each person, such as an interesting accessory they are wearing or how they hold themselves. Say your compliment with a smile and then leave without expecting any response. I’ve done this countless times over the years and you’ll be amazed at how many people stop you from leaving and thank you sincerely.
A lot of people struggle with approaching strangers and starting conversations due to a fear of rejection. The beauty of this challenge is that because you have no agenda, no outcome dependence, and no intention of starting a conversation, you can’t actually be rejected! Anything that happens beyond the initial compliment is an unintentional bonus. After a short while doing this challenge, you will probably realise just how friendly and approachable most people are!
The complimenting challenge for couples:
Even if you are in a relationship, I still recommend implementing some of the above ideas into your life. It characterises someone who is sociable, friendly and positive. However, the extension of the complimenting challenge for couples is aimed directly at appreciating your girlfriend or boyfriend more.
It is easy to start taking your partner for granted as a relationship progresses. Most people are extremely complimentary at the beginning of a relationship, but over time these acts can become less frequent or sincere as a couple become overly familiar with each other.
The complimenting challenge for couples is to start making an effort to appreciate the daily things your partner does that might usually go unnoticed; the things they do for you and the effort they make.
Not only will this add towards the relationship being continually positive and happy, but you will actually find that your partner starts doing more of things you highlight. Emotions are contagious and the more you compliment your partner on even the smallest things, the more they will want to continue doing them without complaint.
The complimenting challenge is to give at least one compliment every day, either to a stranger or to your partner. 🙂