Sleeping with someone new for the first time

The pivotal point in the majority of relationships, and one which signifies the progression of a casual dating relationship into something real and lasting, is having sex for the first time.

Men and women have very different perspectives on sleeping with someone for the first time. Although everyone has their own personal thoughts and concerns about how and when to sleep with someone new, there are many generalisations that are useful to understand. Read more

The complimenting challenge for both singles and couples

This article comprises of a practical assignment that will have a positive effect on many aspects of your life. If you’ve been following my twitter profile recently then you will have noticed that the lead up to this challenge revolves around thinking about the best compliments you have ever been given and how you felt when you received them. Read more

How likely your partner is to cheat – part 2

This article is a follow-up to the article How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1 and consists of a unique cascading diagram that determines how likely someone is to cheat in a relationship. Without further ado I present to you the diagram, followed by some brief explanations of some of the key features… Read more

How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1

Men and women who have been cheated on in the past will usually be able to look back and pinpoint certain forewarnings in their partner’s behaviour and develop their own reasons for why it happened. There is a tendency to ignore any of the real relational reasons behind it though and to instead load all the blame on the cheating partner. Every action has causation and it’s only by being aware of and understanding those causes that you will be able to prevent or deal with the outcome… in this case, cheating! Read more

A fundamental flaw in dating and why you should never stop meeting people

A question I often get asked is, “Does your girlfriend mind that you are a dating coach?” As part of that aspect of my work, I often take men – and occasionally women – out into the real world and demonstrate how easy it is to meet people of the opposite sex, so to put their question another way, does Heidi mind that I approach other women? The truth is that even if I didn’t work as a dating coach I would still approach other women! Before I receive a backlash from that statement, let me explain what I mean… Read more