Everyone knows that first impressions are key and research shows that humans judge the most about you as a person within the first few seconds of meeting you! This sounds absurd but it actually stems from a built-in survival technique in humans to judge who we will benefit from getting to know and who is, without being harsh, probably not worth knowing.
These days social interactions are usually more forgiving, but you will still find that the more you work on your first impression, the more you will flourish in social interactions. Below is a list of ten things you can do to help you improve your chances of dating the men or women you desire…
1) Smarten your appearance:
It’s saddening how much we get judged by our appearance but if you think about it, your appearance says an awful lot about you. It shows how much you pride yourself and how willing you are to make the effort to present yourself in the best possible way. Not to mention if you think you look good, you will ultimately feel good about yourself, which is crucial for making a great first impression!
I used you have a routine whereby I would only wear my best clothes if I was off to do something significant or meet special friends. If I was just popping in to town or going shopping I would just throw on whatever I could find… I mean, who’s going to see me right! Well you never know who you’re going to bump into (if you know the story of how I met my girlfriend, you’ll know this is very true for me) so always make sure you are clean and looking smart. I will probably write a post on fashion and how to find your perfect style in the near future so stay tuned for something more comprehensive here.
2) Hang around with inspiring people:
The best way to sample living your dream life is to hang around with people who are already living that dream to some degree. If you want to become rich, you wouldn’t ask advice from a homeless person; you would preferably ask a self-made millionaire. Similarly, if you want to improve your dating life, it’s no use asking any friends who have their own dating woes.
I realised this pretty early on when I wanted to get my social skills and love-life handled. In my first year of University, rather than going to bars and clubs to try and unwittingly score with girls like my friends would, I first went out to try and scout out the guys who had social presence… The guys who were like an unavoidable magnet for women. A large portion of my early development in this field was by hanging out with two guys I met this way who were exceptionally, naturally good with women and absorbing as much of their positive knowledge as possible.
3) Take up some interesting hobbies:
I’ve already drafted a post on what the best hobbies to meet members of the opposite sex are but it’s not just about meeting people to date. Start living a life that is not only fulfilling for yourself, but that other people would want to be part of! What’s more attractive to a woman: a man who only likes watching TV and playing computer games, or a man who loves sports, dancing, theatre, new experiences etc. By trying as many new activities as possible you might find a new passion of yours that you never expected (mine turned out to be playing guitar and salsa dancing). Not only will taking up new hobbies enrich your character, it will also give you extra opportunities to meet potential partners.
4) Keep up to date on current events and entertainment news:
This is another case of developing your character so you’re more engaging to everyone you meet as well as being able to spontaneously produce a wealth of new conversation topics at a moment’s notice. Everyone is interested in current events and news, whether they specifically follow them or not. I actually rarely watch or read the national news due to the amount of negativity reported, but I still get enjoyment out of reading senseless entertainment news shared on social media. The number of times I’ve used celebrity gossip to start up conversations with random people on the London Underground is fairly substantial.
5) Always be alert and on the ball:
As mentioned earlier in this ariclt, you never know when you’re going to meet that man or woman of your dreams… so always try to be refreshed, energised and alert. Many years ago I used to listen to my iPod wherever I went (it was a 1st generation iPod, which shows just how long ago I mean). I vividly remember blissfully skipping along one day listening to some ska music, when I realised I had just unsuspectingly walked past an absolutely gorgeous woman and I was certain we had a “moment” as we made passing eye-contact.
Perhaps there would not have been a connection beyond initial physical attraction, but I sure was kicking myself for the rest of that day. I knew if I had been alert and in my normal state of mind, I would have stopped her and started a short conversation. From that moment on I vowed never to pointlessly listen to my iPod again whilst commuting (I still enjoy listening to music all the time but I can listen to it when I’m at home and not just to pass the time).
Always be alert and ready for anything because you never know when you might stumble upon that person of your dreams! 🙂
The second part of ’10 things you can do right now to improve your love life’ can be found HERE.