The pivotal point in the majority of relationships and one which signifies the progression of a casual dating relationship into something real and lasting is having sexual intercourse together for the first time.

Men and women have VERY different perspectives on sleeping with someone for the first time and although everyone has their own personal thoughts and concerns about how and when to sleep with someone new, there are many generalisations that are useful to understand.

This article will explain how men and women differ emotionally when deciding to sleep with someone for the first time, whilst giving some general thoughts on how to use these differing feelings to have a smoother progression in your relationships… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 10th, 2009 at 2:56 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Sex.
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Today’s update is a practical assignment that will have a positive effect on many aspects of your life. If you’ve been following my twitter profile recently then you will have noticed that the lead up to this challenge revolves around thinking about the best compliments you have ever been given and how you felt when you received them. If you haven’t responded to that yet then please add the best compliment you have ever been given in the comments section at the end of this article. The responses I have received so far have highlighted the variety of positive emotions that I was expecting.

The following complimenting challenge takes very little time out of your daily routine (in fact it is incorporated directly into it) and will have a profound effect on both your dating life and your relationships… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009 at 7:25 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating, Relationships.
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This post is a follow-up to the article ‘How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1’ and consists of a uniquely designed cascading diagram that will determine how likely someone is to cheat in a relationship. Without further ado I present you the diagram, followed by some brief explanations of some of the key features…

The diagram below should be read from top to bottom as a series of steps, in descending order of importance: [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Saturday, October 31st, 2009 at 11:50 am by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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Men and women who have been cheated on in the past will usually be able to look back and pinpoint certain forewarnings in their partner’s behaviour and develop their own reasons for why it happened. There is a tendency to ignore any of the real relational reasons behind it though and to instead frivolously load all the blame on the cheating partner. Every action has causation and it’s only by understanding and being aware of the causation that will allow you to prevent or deal with what comes of it… in this case, cheating!

I’ve written previously about ‘The ONLY way to prevent your partner cheating’ and why ‘Cheating on a partner does not matter’ but a useful thing to know before committing yourself to someone in the form of a monogamous relationship is how likely are they to cheat on you at any point along the way.

There are some people in relationships who in the back of their minds are scared stiff that their partner will cheat on them and will have already imposed strict consequences for finding out that they have. Whilst you never want to turn into a neurotic relationship detective by probing and testing your partner’s fidelity at every opportunity, knowing some of the causes for cheating will ease any concern and help you to focus on the more positive aspects of a relationship.

This article will list three ways that dictate how likely your partner is to cheat… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 27th, 2009 at 4:53 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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A question I often get asked is “does your girlfriend mind that you are a dating coach?” As part of that aspect of my work, I often take guys out into the real world and demonstrate how easy it is to meet people of the opposite sex, so to put their question another way, does Heidi mind that I approach other women? The truth is that even if I didn’t work as a dating coach I would still approach other women! Before I procure a heavy backlash from that statement, let me explain what I mean…

Attractive people in relationships:

One of the saddest aspects of relationships is that they can turn even the most attractive person into their antithesis over time. Have you ever had a friend who has suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth after getting into a serious relationship? Or, have you ever come out of a long relationship only to feel clueless as to how to succeed in the dating world again? Both of these questions are answered by analysing the contrasting mindsets between people in relationships and those same people when they are not in a relationship. [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 20th, 2009 at 6:30 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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The ‘friend zone’ is a common dating situation where one person develops feelings for someone with whom their relationship has previously always been purely platonic. The friend zone can also refer to a situation where one person openly reveals a romantic interest in someone else only for the feelings not to be reciprocated. This second description is commonly referred to as the “let’s just be friends” syndrome due to the fact that phrase is a common response to unwanted romantic interest from a friend.

It is typically more common for men to find themselves in situations regarding the friend zone, as women generally have more dating options available to them and as a consequence can differentiate between emotional attachment and sexual attraction more easily. In fact, of my male clients, a fairly high percentage come to me directly from the situation that there is someone specific who they want to win over. My advice to those people is usually the same: in order to get one woman, you have to be able to get ALL women!

This article is going to dissect the psychology behind having romantic feelings for a friend before describing the only reliable techniques to starting a relationship with someone who you are firmly in the ‘friend zone’ with… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 13th, 2009 at 5:31 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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“I think we should take a break!”

It’s the phrase that everyone in a relationship dreads to hear from their girlfriend or boyfriend and rightly so! Going on a break is rarely as innocent as it sounds and is indubitably the result of one or many problems manifesting in a relationship.

If a couple are going through a bad patch in their relationship then going on a break seems like an easy temporary solution for a confusing situation. As this article will explain, it can end up being either the inspiration for rectifying the relationship or it can be the immediate demise of the relationship. It depends solely on how it is approached and the real reasoning behind it!

This article will list a few common reasons for wanting to go on a break along with advice for both people involved before offering some alternative routes of action that stem from more assertive behaviour than what going on a break represents…

Reasons for going on a break:

The ultimatum of going on a break is rarely a mutual decision… but it is often a mutual feeling! At the very least it is evidence of someone taking CONTROL over problems in their relationship and even if there is one notable event that acts as a catalyst for the decision, the thoughts and feelings of going on a break have probably been brewing for some time. [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 6th, 2009 at 6:01 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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Humans are social creatures and as a side effect we have developed several hard-wired survival techniques. The ability to lie is one of those, although that is not to say that it is the best technique to succeed in modern society, let alone relationships!

I was recently interviewed by an online publication on ‘the benefits of lying in relationships’ (a loaded title if ever there was one) but it did get me thinking intently about why couples really lie to each other. The truth is that however honest a couple say they are there is always going to be one or two things that can be construed as dishonest by the other person. The question is where do trivial lies cross over into damaging lies?

This article will explain the different types of lying, the reasons why people lie in relationships and then discuss some pressing consequences surrounding these…

The different types of lying:

There are three main types of lie, each varying in intensity, and what is right and wrong for you will largely be based on your own moral upbringing and development.

The three main types of lie in a relationship are: [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, September 29th, 2009 at 5:45 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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I have had several requests by readers that it is about time I wrote another article on a more sexual topic, so I have chosen to write on the topic of Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are something that you may never have heard of before and a lot of people who are already aware of them severely underrate the incredible effect they can have on one’s sex life.

This article will give a brief background as to what Kegel exercises are before describing how they can improve sexual performance and then most importantly, detailing how to do the exercises for yourself…

What are Kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises were developed by an American gynaecologist called Dr. Arthur Kegel in the mid twentieth century. They are a method of strengthening the Pubococcygeus muscles (commonly referred to as the PC muscles) that are situated on the pelvic floor just below both the female and male genitalia. They were originally developed to aid pregnant women in having more physical control immediately before, during and after pregnancy but in recent years their effect on sexual fulfilment has also been keenly researched. [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009 at 4:36 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Sex.
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I always advocate relationships that are fully open and trusting, regardless of how serious or monogamous they are. However, there are some topics that will do your relationship no favours by being discussed in intricate detail, especially in the initial stages of dating and connecting.

A lot of a relationship’s success is based upon the effort each person makes on their own personal development. Things such as jealousy, arguments and ‘the number one relationship killer’ are all based on insecurities that are individual and not that of a couple. Whilst I repeat the sentiment that relationships should be fully open and trusting, there is a big difference between sharing your insecurities with your partner and expecting them to ‘fix you’, as opposed to being responsible for your own personal development.

So to expand this article’s title to a less pithy but more accurate version, below are a couple of topics that you should avoid detailing or enquiring to unnecessary and inconsiderate depths with you partner… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, September 15th, 2009 at 6:42 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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