I would like to start by saying that I am not adamantly against marriage myself but that the committal of marriage should be done with a lot greater thought and awareness than most people seem to utilise. It’s no coincidence that divorce rates are so high when we are pressured by society to believe marriage is the correct course for all long-term relationships.

I personally would rather go through life having never been married but having experienced many fulfilling relationships that were right for me at the time than marry the wrong person out of some sort of commitment obligation.

This article will highlight ten reasons why marriages consistently fail and will hopefully give some food for thought for people who believe marriage is a top priority. I encourage you to discuss, argue or agree with any of the points in the comments section at the end of the article… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, December 8th, 2009 at 8:26 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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Approach anxiety is an unusual phenomenon… It is irrational and unbeneficial yet remains a very real experience for a lot of people!

Approach anxiety is the manifestation of a number of physiological and emotional symptoms we get when we decide to actively meet a stranger. The time where this is most significant (which is also what makes it highly relevant to the topics on this website) is when thinking about approaching someone we are attracted to.

Humans are social creatures and we live in a sophisticated world of several billion people, yet there are still common scenarios where we find it abnormal to approach a fellow human being and instinctual responses take over our logical desires in those moments.

There are probably a few naturally confident men and women, socialised at an early age, who are reading this and cannot relate to this feeling of approach anxiety. For the rest of us, I’m sure you can think of a time where you really wanted to meet someone, perhaps someone you are physically attracted to, and approach anxiety kicked in; else, you simply dismiss the idea of actively meeting people in this way altogether.

I’ve yet to meet someone, regardless of situation or relationship status that hasn’t had their lives enriched by learning to meet more people or overcome their anxieties. This article will explain where approach anxiety comes from and then detail a simple three-step method for overcoming it… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 at 8:59 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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Whilst it is comforting to think that men and women can be purely platonic friends with no hidden feelings of amativeness or sexual attraction, this ideal seems to consistently get discredited with real-life examples.

I’m sure most of you reading this can claim to have platonic friends of the opposite sex but can you be certain that the feeling is completely mutual? In my experience there are only two characteristics that will allow two people to be void of this whole theory, which I will explain shortly.

I predict that there are going to be many differing opinions and examples for this topic, so whilst I will share some of my own insights, I want you to have a chance to share yours too. Please further this discussion by leaving a comment at the end of this article with your thoughts on whether you think men and women can ever truly be friends; I’m really interested in what other people think about this… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 24th, 2009 at 8:33 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under General.
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I know that my girlfriend loves me very much but there’s still something acutely powerful, blissfully reassuring and downright indomitable about hearing Heidi utter those magical three words to me.

I’ve worked hard over the past few years to rid myself of any negative emotions and anxieties and be able to control my emotions at will, yet I truly believe that the only emotion that cannot be suppressed is love!

That’s fine if your love for someone is equally reciprocated but what if it is not? And even if it is reciprocated, does the intensity fluctuate over time?

This article will introduce some new theories I have been working on surrounding love and how to manage what is ostensibly the most powerful emotion in the world… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 17th, 2009 at 8:23 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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The pivotal point in the majority of relationships and one which signifies the progression of a casual dating relationship into something real and lasting is having sexual intercourse together for the first time.

Men and women have VERY different perspectives on sleeping with someone for the first time and although everyone has their own personal thoughts and concerns about how and when to sleep with someone new, there are many generalisations that are useful to understand.

This article will explain how men and women differ emotionally when deciding to sleep with someone for the first time, whilst giving some general thoughts on how to use these differing feelings to have a smoother progression in your relationships… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 10th, 2009 at 2:56 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Sex.
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Today’s update is a practical assignment that will have a positive effect on many aspects of your life. If you’ve been following my twitter profile recently then you will have noticed that the lead up to this challenge revolves around thinking about the best compliments you have ever been given and how you felt when you received them. If you haven’t responded to that yet then please add the best compliment you have ever been given in the comments section at the end of this article. The responses I have received so far have highlighted the variety of positive emotions that I was expecting.

The following complimenting challenge takes very little time out of your daily routine (in fact it is incorporated directly into it) and will have a profound effect on both your dating life and your relationships… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009 at 7:25 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating, Relationships.
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This post is a follow-up to the article ‘How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1’ and consists of a uniquely designed cascading diagram that will determine how likely someone is to cheat in a relationship. Without further ado I present you the diagram, followed by some brief explanations of some of the key features…

The diagram below should be read from top to bottom as a series of steps, in descending order of importance: [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Saturday, October 31st, 2009 at 11:50 am by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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Men and women who have been cheated on in the past will usually be able to look back and pinpoint certain forewarnings in their partner’s behaviour and develop their own reasons for why it happened. There is a tendency to ignore any of the real relational reasons behind it though and to instead frivolously load all the blame on the cheating partner. Every action has causation and it’s only by understanding and being aware of the causation that will allow you to prevent or deal with what comes of it… in this case, cheating!

I’ve written previously about ‘The ONLY way to prevent your partner cheating’ and why ‘Cheating on a partner does not matter’ but a useful thing to know before committing yourself to someone in the form of a monogamous relationship is how likely are they to cheat on you at any point along the way.

There are some people in relationships who in the back of their minds are scared stiff that their partner will cheat on them and will have already imposed strict consequences for finding out that they have. Whilst you never want to turn into a neurotic relationship detective by probing and testing your partner’s fidelity at every opportunity, knowing some of the causes for cheating will ease any concern and help you to focus on the more positive aspects of a relationship.

This article will list three ways that dictate how likely your partner is to cheat… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 27th, 2009 at 4:53 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Relationships.
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A question I often get asked is “does your girlfriend mind that you are a dating coach?” As part of that aspect of my work, I often take guys out into the real world and demonstrate how easy it is to meet people of the opposite sex, so to put their question another way, does Heidi mind that I approach other women? The truth is that even if I didn’t work as a dating coach I would still approach other women! Before I procure a heavy backlash from that statement, let me explain what I mean…

Attractive people in relationships:

One of the saddest aspects of relationships is that they can turn even the most attractive person into their antithesis over time. Have you ever had a friend who has suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth after getting into a serious relationship? Or, have you ever come out of a long relationship only to feel clueless as to how to succeed in the dating world again? Both of these questions are answered by analysing the contrasting mindsets between people in relationships and those same people when they are not in a relationship. [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 20th, 2009 at 6:30 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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The ‘friend zone’ is a common dating situation where one person develops feelings for someone with whom their relationship has previously always been purely platonic. The friend zone can also refer to a situation where one person openly reveals a romantic interest in someone else only for the feelings not to be reciprocated. This second description is commonly referred to as the “let’s just be friends” syndrome due to the fact that phrase is a common response to unwanted romantic interest from a friend.

It is typically more common for men to find themselves in situations regarding the friend zone, as women generally have more dating options available to them and as a consequence can differentiate between emotional attachment and sexual attraction more easily. In fact, of my male clients, a fairly high percentage come to me directly from the situation that there is someone specific who they want to win over. My advice to those people is usually the same: in order to get one woman, you have to be able to get ALL women!

This article is going to dissect the psychology behind having romantic feelings for a friend before describing the only reliable techniques to starting a relationship with someone who you are firmly in the ‘friend zone’ with… [Continue reading this post...]

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 13th, 2009 at 5:31 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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