In the article ‘Steps for finding the perfect partner’, one of the points was that to increase your chances of meeting the perfect partner, you have to be willing to meet as many people as you reasonably can.
Just think how many people pass you by every day without you taking a second glance… Call me a whimsical romantic but every single member of the opposite sex that you nonchalantly pass by each day could be your future soul mate!! 
Make a commitment:
One of the biggest barriers that inhibits people from approaching members of the opposite sex that they would like to meet is EXCUSES. Even guys who have paid me sizeable amounts of money to teach them how to meet women still give me a barrage of excuses when it comes to actually doing it:
“I’m not really attracted to her.”
“She looks busy.”
“I’m not feeling it.”
“I’ve hesitated too long.”
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A common request that I get is for help and guidance on texting a new potential suitor. Usually I receive this request from guys, as girls will more readily ask their friends for advice, but occasionally I get this request from a girl. Sometimes I flat-out get asked to write a text from scratch for someone, although I will explain why this wouldn’t really benefit you shortly.
Due to this demand, I have decided to compile a list of general guidelines for texting someone you have recently met and acquired the phone number of. These guidelines are most relevant for the beginning stages of dating. After knowing someone for a while and getting past the initial pressure of texting someone new, you won’t have to worry about these concepts, although they are still useful to keep in mind when texting in a relationship…
First thoughts are usually the best:
Have you ever sat there staring at your phone, agonising over what to write, modifying your drafts hundreds of times, asking around your close friends for creative input and then agonising some more before finally sending something similar to what you had in the first place? More often than not, what you immediately think of when creating or replying to a text message is the best. Over-analysis is the killer of creative flow! [Continue reading this post...]
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What does tradition tell us is the best first date: Dinner, the cinema, or perhaps turning up with flowers and then doing whatever the lady wants to do (the man will be paying of course)? All three of these are TERRIBLE ideas! Let me deal with them separately…
Don’t go for dinner:
These kind of dates used to be my worst nightmare; what a pressurised situation! You’re sitting opposite each other and the whole focus is on the conversation the two of you must have. You’re sitting in the same spot for up to two hours, so once the limited chat about the surrounding decor has worn off, you really have to be on your conversational best to keep the interaction interesting. Not to mention that sitting opposite each other restricts almost completely any touch or physical escalation that should be happening between the two of you to progress the relationship to that of a sexual one.
Getting takeaway food or grabbing a bite to eat if you’re both hungry is fine but setting up a formal ‘dinner date’ is boring, unoriginal and pressurised… You’re likely to get a high percentage of women turning this sort of date down at first because of this. [Continue reading this post...]
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This is the second part in the series ‘Dispelling male myths about dating’. The first part can be found HERE.
“Just be yourself”:
This is the killer, usually given by women who have got to know you, bypassed all the crummy social conditioning and realised that you are a nice guy underneath (but not one that they would sleep with). Else it is given by guys who had useful male role-models when they were developing (a confident father for example) and have always been confident and good with women (they haven’t actually broken down what it is exactly that gets them the girls though). If just ‘being yourself’ has not worked in the past, what makes you think that it would work now? My advice to this is obviously not to try and be someone you’re not and hide your core values and personality (although modelling the people you admire works wonders in the short term), but to practice becoming the person you WANT to be and then be that new self, your BEST self, one that has all the limiting beliefs and negative thoughts stripped away. [Continue reading this post...]
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Before I get into more in-depth dating techniques and advice, as well as actually starting on more substantial relationship advice, I thought I would go through a couple of common dating myths that are floating around. I’ve heard these phrases and similar come from many different sources time and time again, so I thought I would lay them to rest once and for all…
“Women don’t enjoy sex”:
This is absolutely the most absurd myth floating around… that women don’t enjoy sex! On the contrary, most of my female friends can’t get enough of sex and demand it from their men more than is healthy… Ever heard of multiple orgasms? The difference is that due to modern culture, women don’t like to admit they want sex and be branded a slut.
This myth is especially rife in a clubbing environment and most girls will say they are going out “to dance”. Do you really think women spend several hours choosing the perfect outfit (usually showing off an excessive amount of leg and cleavage), fixing their makeup multiple times, doing their hair with the precision of a rocket launch and generally presenting themselves as a sexual-being just so they can dance? Look, if girls JUST wanted to listen to music and drink with their girl-buddies, they would have a little gathering with CDs and cheap wine at home. Girls go out to FIND SEX, just like guys. That’s not saying they would go out and have sex with anything or anyone… This would alienate them from their peer group and oppose their biological instinct to mate with a man of strength and power, who has the ability to successfully rear her children. However, a woman’s FANTASY is that she will go out and be confronted by her Prince Charming, who will whisk her off her feet and take her back to his castle for uninhibited, lustful sex. Note that the rules change slightly for girls who are already in happy relationships and this is something that I will specifically discuss in an upcoming post. [Continue reading this post...]
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This is the second part in the list of ’10 things you can do right now to improve your love life’. The first part can be found HERE.
6) Smile, be warming and remember people’s names:
These three characteristics can be summed up by the term ‘friendliness’ and although most of us are taught these principles from an early age, it is amazing how many people don’t apply them ALL the time, due to their own negative self-esteem, contempt for society due to personal issues or just downright laziness!
A genuine smile is the universal display of confidence and friendliness. By genuine I mean one that radiates across the whole face like you’re ecstatic to see everyone you meet. Make sure you don’t just smile with the mouth but with your eyes and your teeth too and then everyone will be happy to be in your presence. A good example of someone who smiles like this is Joey from the American sitcom ‘Friends’.. [Continue reading this post...]
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Everyone knows that first impressions are key and research shows that humans will judge the most about you as a person within the first SEVEN seconds of meeting you!! This sounds absurd but it actually stems from a built-in survival technique in humans to judge who we will benefit from getting to know and who is, without being overly harsh, probably not worth knowing. Obviously these days it doesn’t transpire as cut and dry as this but you will still find that the more you work on your first impression, the more you will flourish in social interactions. Below is the first part of a list of ten things you can do to help you achieve this and ultimately improve your chances of dating the men or women you desire…
1) Smarten up your appearance:
It’s a sad affair how much we get judged by our appearance but if you think about it, your appearance says an awful lot about you. It shows how much you pride yourself and how willing you are to make the effort to present yourself in the best possible way. Not to mention if you think you look good, you will ultimately feel good about yourself, which is key to making a great first impression! [Continue reading this post...]
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