Comments on: Connecting in a relationship and interacting using frame theory

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:22:42 +0000

Hi Emma, welcome to the website!

Being on the same wavelength and respecting each other is exactly what this is about. This leads to understanding each other’s needs in the relationship, which is the most important factor of all.

The best place to start on this website is probably the ‘Best of’ page, which is kept relatively up to date. Once you’ve exhausted that, the rest of the articles can be found in the categories down the right-hand side of each page.

Thanks for commenting and I look forward to hearing from you again,

Sam

By: Emma

Emma — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:25:51 +0000

Hello I am new here and am just starting out in my 1st really serious relationship. It took me a few reads through to understand fully about these frames but I love the last paragraphs where you talk about frame of unity. Me and my boyfriend definately work best when we make an effort to be on the same wavelength and show respect for each other.

I look forward to reading more of this website. Is there a page or article I should start at or shall I just brose randomly? Emma

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:54:23 +0000

Hi,

Thanks a lot. I tried not to get too technical and geeky when breaking it down but I must say I love delving into any topic related to social psychology.

Strong and weak frames are merely a simple way to categorise what is an extremely broad spectrum of characteristics. Human interactions will tend towards one or the other though, so although all frames vary in intensity, for ease of understanding, all that is relevant is that whichever frame in an interaction is stronger (more decisive, prevalent and unwavering) will be the dominant carrier of that interaction.

When creating a frame of unity, it doesn’t matter who has a strong or weak frame by default. It’s not uncommon to have a more dominant person in a relationship (often the male in traditional relationships) but when interacting within a frame of unity, none of those roles or factors undermines anyone in the relationship and that is the key.

I will endeavour to go into more detail about this topic in the future, as I appreciate I have only touched the surface here.

Thanks for your comment,

Sam

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:54:00 +0000

Hi Olu,

I know I could definitely be more active on twitter but I always want to make sure that what I post there is both as interesting and relevant as possible. Hopefully I’ll have more time to dedicate to twitter and writing in general soon.

I’m glad you like this article,

Sam

By: pyrax

pyrax — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 13:39:17 +0000

This post is awesome, best in in a while imo. I love it when you really break down topics we take for granted, such as interactions here.
Just so I make sure I understand, are there only strong and weak frames or is there a form inbetween? Also, when creating the frame of unity at the end, how does that work exactly if one person has a strong frame and one person has a weak frame?
Great post, I hope you go in to more details on this topic in the future.

By: olu

olu — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 01:30:07 +0000

Really good. This is the first time i’ve heard frame stuff you talk about and it was interesting to read.

ps i wihs you would update your twitter with more stuff i like reading your stuff.