Comments on: Compromising in a relationship http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/ Relationship and Dating Advice Tue, 27 Jul 2010 00:14:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Anderson http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3517 Anderson Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:57:06 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3517 A good relationship never makes you actually feel like it is a 'compromise' ...because you do things without any complain! Married dating site for those looking for a married affair, or in a relationship, and looking for a marital affair or married dating. <a href="http://www.marriedaffair.co.uk" rel="nofollow">www.marriedaffair.co.uk</a> A good relationship never makes you actually feel like it is a ‘compromise’ …because you do things without any complain!
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]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3508 Samuel McCrohan Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:52:49 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3508 Thanks Jess! :) Thanks Jess! :)

]]> By: Jess Cliff http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3497 Jess Cliff Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:33:44 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3497 This really blew my mind, what else can I say except keep doing what you are doing. I am thankful for finding this website, it rocks! This really blew my mind, what else can I say except keep doing what you are doing.

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]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3481 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:36:07 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3481 Hi Emma, That’s great that you and your boyfriend can come to compromises and agreements so smoothly and to be honest, a great deal of all this is subconscious conditioning from how well we connect with our partner. The conceptualisation in the article is still useful to bear in mind for times when compromise doesn’t happen so smoothly, due to one of the factors from the diagram being missing. Even the most perfect relationships will still occasionally find times like this and it really isn’t a problem when it does. Thanks for commenting, :) Sam Hi Emma,

That’s great that you and your boyfriend can come to compromises and agreements so smoothly and to be honest, a great deal of all this is subconscious conditioning from how well we connect with our partner.

The conceptualisation in the article is still useful to bear in mind for times when compromise doesn’t happen so smoothly, due to one of the factors from the diagram being missing. Even the most perfect relationships will still occasionally find times like this and it really isn’t a problem when it does.

Thanks for commenting, :)

Sam

]]> By: Emma http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3478 Emma Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:31:55 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3478 I agree that compromise is very important in relationships. I tend not to think about it too much as my boyfriend is very relaxed about everything which makes me relaxed too so we can always easily compromise on things. I guess if I think about it we probably do follow the method here without thinking bout it. Really enjoying this website so far. Emma I agree that compromise is very important in relationships. I tend not to think about it too much as my boyfriend is very relaxed about everything which makes me relaxed too so we can always easily compromise on things. I guess if I think about it we probably do follow the method here without thinking bout it. Really enjoying this website so far. Emma

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3431 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 07 Feb 2010 14:27:21 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3431 Hi Elena, thanks a lot! :) Compromise is definitely best when it is done with the awareness that allows you to see the other person’s point of view, rather than compromise merely for the sake of avoiding arguments. Either way, learning to compromise cooperatively is crucial in a relationship. You’re right about sacrifice being where there is an imbalance between give and take, which can also lead to the unhealthy ‘controlling relationship’. Thanks for your comment. :) Sam Hi Elena, thanks a lot! :)

Compromise is definitely best when it is done with the awareness that allows you to see the other person’s point of view, rather than compromise merely for the sake of avoiding arguments. Either way, learning to compromise cooperatively is crucial in a relationship.

You’re right about sacrifice being where there is an imbalance between give and take, which can also lead to the unhealthy ‘controlling relationship’.

Thanks for your comment. :)

Sam

]]> By: Elena http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3429 Elena Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:34:35 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3429 Fabulous post Sam. I think compromise is a great element to have in your relationship because you make an attempt to see things from both sides. As Joan said above, compromise not sacrifice. Sacrifice I think is when compromise is happening too much because one person in the relationship has stopped giving but keeps on taking. Fabulous post Sam. I think compromise is a great element to have in your relationship because you make an attempt to see things from both sides. As Joan said above, compromise not sacrifice. Sacrifice I think is when compromise is happening too much because one person in the relationship has stopped giving but keeps on taking.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3427 Samuel McCrohan Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:50:42 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3427 Hi Joan, Our childhood and early development undoubtedly influences how adaptable, lenient and caring we naturally are and it’s great that you’ve learnt these indispensible skills already. I love your quote “compromise, not sacrifice” and I think it’s a useful concept to keep in mind, especially when making big decisions with a partner. I would love to hear any of your personal examples if they spring to mind sometime soon. :) Thanks for commenting, Sam Hi Joan,

Our childhood and early development undoubtedly influences how adaptable, lenient and caring we naturally are and it’s great that you’ve learnt these indispensible skills already.

I love your quote “compromise, not sacrifice” and I think it’s a useful concept to keep in mind, especially when making big decisions with a partner.

I would love to hear any of your personal examples if they spring to mind sometime soon. :)

Thanks for commenting,

Sam

]]> By: Joan http://sparklife.info/blog/2010/02/compromise-relationship/#comment-3424 Joan Sat, 06 Feb 2010 02:42:33 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=621#comment-3424 I like this article. It didnt ring as many alarm bells with me as some of your other articles as I think of myself as naturally very good at compromising. It just doesnt bother me if I dont get my own way. I guess growing up with 4 siblings helped with this. anyway, I very much liked how you broke down this important topic. One thing my husband always used to say was "compromise, not sacrifice" and I think that fits in very well with what you have written. I will have to get back to you if I can think of any particular examples of this in action with me. Tkae care Joan <3 I like this article. It didnt ring as many alarm bells with me as some of your other articles as I think of myself as naturally very good at compromising. It just doesnt bother me if I dont get my own way. I guess growing up with 4 siblings helped with this. anyway, I very much liked how you broke down this important topic.

One thing my husband always used to say was “compromise, not sacrifice” and I think that fits in very well with what you have written.

I will have to get back to you if I can think of any particular examples of this in action with me.

Tkae care

Joan <3

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