I just found and read the post you mentioned and it’s very sweet; I’m sure when your man stumbled across it he was very touched. I’ve written similar things in letters to Heidi before and getting it written down is a great way of expressing how you feel without coming across as too needy.

Your gifts sound lovely and thoughtful but I completely agree with you that showing affection in small ways throughout the year is far more potent.

Thanks for commenting, and if you ever have some unique ideas for showing love, it would be great to hear them… I’m currently working on a long list of original, romantic ideas to share.

Thanks,

Sam

I’ll be continuing to think about ways to share love throughout the coming months!
Great ideas you’ve shared, as always!

Although there seems to be some amusing mix-ups there, your relationship does sound great by the way you discuss things and understand each other.

There’s always the quandary of how much to do or buy on a couple’s first special occasion (I remember my first Christmas with Heidi, I had no idea how many presents she would get me and consequently how much stuff I should get her) but you learn these things and even cheap flowers and a card have the same sentiment behind them.

I hope you have a wonderful day this year and thanks for commenting,

Sam

BUT! (After I’d finished crying) we discussed it and he said valentines day is just not that important to him. He’d rather just spend the day with me doing special things. We went for a walk in the Peak District & it was nice. He hates the overcommercialisation of the day. (I didn’t stop crying for a while.)

This year though I think he’s learnt from his mistakes (it was our first valentines together) and might actually pull his finger out. I’ve not bought him anything this year so I’ve learnt from my mistakes too. :p

Seriously though, he shows his love all year round by supporting me through University and doesn’t need to show it through crappy flowers or cards. He knows I like to receive cards though so I’ll likely get one of those.

Wow that is a long relationship and that’s a wonderful sentiment; you could almost make a quote out of it!

Thanks a lot for commenting,

Sam

That’s a good tip and as I mentioned in an earlier comment response, it actually makes the impact of a surprise/gesture even grander if it comes completely unexpected. Did you ever let your husband know that you were disappointed in reality, so that he knew for next time?

I hope you have a lovely day whatever you get up to and thanks for commenting!

Sam

PS: I’m not sure if you are aware that you won a prize announced on my twitter profile for being the 500th person to comment on this website! Congratulations; I am just about to e-mail you your prize!

Hehe I know how much girls love those kinds of nights in so if that’s what the girls want to do then go for it! I refrained from making a joke about two male strippers named Ben and Jerry!

Thanks for stopping by,

Sam

Yes I know the shops like to milk Valentine’s Day for all it is worth and that’s what I meant about avoiding the commercial side unless you’re really into that stuff.

That’s a fair point about the pressure and expectation. A common thing I like to do is underplay my intentions so that a lot of the actual things that I do are really a surprise and even more appreciated.

I’m pretty sure that Saturday will effectively become Valentine’s Day this year because of most people’s schedules. Have fun wherever you end up!

Oh and yes you are welcome to use that text message example… Let me know what sort of responses you get.

Thanks for commenting,

Sam

Me and my ex-husband always used to agree not to do anything on valentine’s day but when it came round to it, I always secretly wished that he had done something to surprise me and was always a bit dissappointed if I saw friends doing something nice. Let that be a polite tip for other men out there.

I’m not sure what I am doing this year if anything but I will take your advice on board, you have some great ideas.

Joan <3