That’s great to hear that things worked out well for you.

If a man has gone on three dates with you then it is safe to say that he is interested in the possibility of pursuing a deeper relationship and it also gives enough time to feel comfortable with each other like you say. On the other hand, waiting longer before getting intimate without any verbal discussion could give conflicting messages. It sounds like you found the perfect balance.

Thanks for commenting,

Sam

Your insight does go to show how much more thorough women are with these things than men though. I can normally tell if a woman will be good in bed by default within about ten minutes of meeting her… and most men know if a woman is ‘good enough’ in bed within about ten seconds!!

Sam

The three-date rule is so that we can decide whether or not we think you’ll be good in bed. We like quality, not quantity;)

I like that method. I often hear from people who don’t know where they stand because they assume sex automatically brings relationship status with it. And you’re right… Sex definitely gets better the more you do it with the same person!

Thanks a lot for commenting,

Sam

Yes I know it can sometimes feel awkward when getting physical with a new woman for the first time. That is largely down to how smoothly you have escalated physically. If you increase seduction slowly from touching to kissing etc then you get to the point where sex is the next natural step.

I would generally advise against verbalising this seduction (unless you’ve spoken to each other about having sex before) as it puts the woman into the pressurised situation of having to logically decide whether to have sex or not in the moment. She will have done this already in her subconscious mind but sex is a lot more enjoyable for both sexes when it can be rationalised as natural and spontaneous.

Thanks for answering the questions too. Sex with someone new can seem ‘clumsy’ as you have to figure out what each other likes and dislikes. Both men and women can feel it is too soon for sex but as I stated in the article, women receive a lot harsher stereotypes when it comes to sex, which plays a part as to why they may seem to want to wait longer.

Thanks for your comment,

Sam

It is hard for me to personally relate to your situation as I am not religious myself, although I did briefly date a religious woman with similar views to you many years ago. She actually changed her beliefs whilst she was with me so I imagine every Christian’s beliefs vary in strictness.

I can imagine that it would be hard to find guys without the same religious beliefs as you who are willing to wait until marriage but I am sure sticking to your beliefs is more important so good on you for doing so.

In a sense, waiting until marriage before having sex is just an extreme version of some of the points I was talking about in the above article, namely respecting a woman’s disposition towards sex and the levels of trust and commitment required before sex.

I’m not sure what your personal boundaries of intimacy would be with a man prior to marriage but I’m sure there are plenty of guys out there who will respect them, regardless of their own religious stance.

Thanks for your question,

Sam