Comments on: How likely your partner is to cheat – part 2 http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/ Relationship and Dating Advice Fri, 18 May 2012 12:28:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-7075 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 18 May 2012 12:28:27 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-7075 Hi, The advice is fairly straightforward… Simply work on solving the three areas you have highlighted, in reverse order. There is lots of advice on this website alone that will help you to achieve this. You definitely want to try and implement a positive attitude towards your relationship as soon as possible rather than a self-defeating one. Take whatever steps you can towards being the best boyfriend you can be, being less controlling and making your relationship as mutually fulfilling as possible. The other two points should solve themselves from there. If you can successfully repair the areas that you feel are limiting your relationship, you will gradually start to become more confident and less fearful about your girlfriend’s intentions. Thanks for reading, Sam Hi,

The advice is fairly straightforward… Simply work on solving the three areas you have highlighted, in reverse order. There is lots of advice on this website alone that will help you to achieve this. You definitely want to try and implement a positive attitude towards your relationship as soon as possible rather than a self-defeating one.

Take whatever steps you can towards being the best boyfriend you can be, being less controlling and making your relationship as mutually fulfilling as possible.

The other two points should solve themselves from there. If you can successfully repair the areas that you feel are limiting your relationship, you will gradually start to become more confident and less fearful about your girlfriend’s intentions.

Thanks for reading,

Sam

]]> By: K http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-7074 K Fri, 18 May 2012 07:10:25 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-7074 My gf has cheated on her ex before. My gf has many people approaching her and loves social My gf is not fully satisfied with her relationship because she thinks i 'm too controlling It seems i have no way please advice~ My gf has cheated on her ex before.
My gf has many people approaching her and loves social
My gf is not fully satisfied with her relationship because she thinks i ‘m too controlling

It seems i have no way
please advice~

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3202 Samuel McCrohan Tue, 03 Nov 2009 00:38:05 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3202 Thanks a lot Elena! :) Thanks a lot Elena! :)

]]> By: Elena http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3201 Elena Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:22:41 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3201 I love the diagram. It really makes sense when you think about it. Everyone fits somewhere on those and the diagrams accurately portray it. You did a great job tackling a complicated topic. I love the diagram. It really makes sense when you think about it. Everyone fits somewhere on those and the diagrams accurately portray it. You did a great job tackling a complicated topic.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3196 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:42:52 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3196 Hi Eva, Thanks a lot for your praise and that’s great that your relationship falls into that category! I appreciate the example you give regarding one’s disposition towards cheating but even if someone routinely proclaims a strict view towards cheating, I will still often quietly question the sincerity of their views. Someone thinking ‘cheating is bad’ doesn’t necessarily mean that they would never cheat given the right (and currently unknown to them) circumstances. In fact, from all the cheating couples I’ve worked with or know of, the unfaithful partner generally accepts that what they are doing is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. It is the other circumstances highlighted in the diagram, along with seeing no easy alternative, which causes them to still be unfaithful. Thanks for your comment, :) Sam Hi Eva,

Thanks a lot for your praise and that’s great that your relationship falls into that category!

I appreciate the example you give regarding one’s disposition towards cheating but even if someone routinely proclaims a strict view towards cheating, I will still often quietly question the sincerity of their views. Someone thinking ‘cheating is bad’ doesn’t necessarily mean that they would never cheat given the right (and currently unknown to them) circumstances. In fact, from all the cheating couples I’ve worked with or know of, the unfaithful partner generally accepts that what they are doing is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. It is the other circumstances highlighted in the diagram, along with seeing no easy alternative, which causes them to still be unfaithful.

Thanks for your comment, :)

Sam

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3195 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:42:29 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3195 Thanks a lot and thanks for the re-tweet also. :) Thanks a lot and thanks for the re-tweet also. :)

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3194 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:42:07 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3194 Hey, thanks a lot and you’re welcome regarding my reply to your message. :) Yes feel free to send it to whoever you like... If you click on ‘e-mail this post’ at the end of the article it will set it all up for you and you will just have to enter the e-mail addresses of the people you want to send it to. Hope you had a frightening Halloween! :) Sam Hey, thanks a lot and you’re welcome regarding my reply to your message. :)

Yes feel free to send it to whoever you like… If you click on ‘e-mail this post’ at the end of the article it will set it all up for you and you will just have to enter the e-mail addresses of the people you want to send it to.

Hope you had a frightening Halloween! :)

Sam

]]> By: Eva http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3193 Eva Sun, 01 Nov 2009 11:17:25 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3193 Wow the diagram is great, especially as it has confirmed that my relationship is 'completely fulfilling' and therefore neither of us our likely to cheat : ) Thank you for posting! Just one thing, in the explanation for the 'dispostition towards cheating' section of the diagram you say that someone with strict views about infidelity will never cheat on their partner. I don't think this is true in all circumstances, in fact I know of someone who cheated on their partner but their view was definitely that cheating is bad! Eva : ) x x x Wow the diagram is great, especially as it has confirmed that my relationship is ‘completely fulfilling’ and therefore neither of us our likely to cheat : ) Thank you for posting!

Just one thing, in the explanation for the ‘dispostition towards cheating’ section of the diagram you say that someone with strict views about infidelity will never cheat on their partner. I don’t think this is true in all circumstances, in fact I know of someone who cheated on their partner but their view was definitely that cheating is bad!

Eva : ) x x x

]]> By: doncharles http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3192 doncharles Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:22:43 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3192 Just dropped in off your twitter to say that this is excellant. Check your @folder and youll see I RT it Just dropped in off your twitter to say that this is excellant. Check your @folder and youll see I RT it

]]> By: pyrax http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/partner-cheat-part-2/#comment-3191 pyrax Sat, 31 Oct 2009 22:17:01 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=517#comment-3191 Been checking back every day for this lol! The diagram and your reply to my message the other day have really cleared up all my questions about this so thanks. Must have taken you ages to draw that but its really awesome. nice work! Do you mind if I send it to a couple of mates think they might find it useful lol? Off to a halloween party now happy halloween to you!! Been checking back every day for this lol! The diagram and your reply to my message the other day have really cleared up all my questions about this so thanks. Must have taken you ages to draw that but its really awesome. nice work! Do you mind if I send it to a couple of mates think they might find it useful lol? Off to a halloween party now happy halloween to you!!

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