Comments on: Is going on a break good or bad? http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/ Relationship and Dating Advice Fri, 03 Feb 2012 18:32:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3144 Samuel McCrohan Sat, 10 Oct 2009 15:24:09 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3144 Hi Elena, I like your perspective. A lot of people who think they are with their ‘ideal mate’ would rather accept the bad aspects of the relationship as a given, which ironically drives a relationship to these conclusions anyway. Every relationship has the potential to be fulfilling and you’re right, doing something is better than doing nothing, even if that something isn’t ideal, such as a break. Hope you’re having a good weekend and thanks a lot commenting, :) Sam Hi Elena,

I like your perspective. A lot of people who think they are with their ‘ideal mate’ would rather accept the bad aspects of the relationship as a given, which ironically drives a relationship to these conclusions anyway. Every relationship has the potential to be fulfilling and you’re right, doing something is better than doing nothing, even if that something isn’t ideal, such as a break.

Hope you’re having a good weekend and thanks a lot commenting, :)

Sam

]]> By: Elena http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3143 Elena Fri, 09 Oct 2009 02:47:38 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3143 Reading about this topic was very informative. No one ever wants a break if they're with their ideal mate but sometimes it's better to take a step back and reflect than plow forward in misery. You brought an interesting perspective to a complex subject. Reading about this topic was very informative. No one ever wants a break if they’re with their ideal mate but sometimes it’s better to take a step back and reflect than plow forward in misery. You brought an interesting perspective to a complex subject.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3140 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:00:45 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3140 Hey sweetie! It took me a while to get what you were referring to but thanks! :) For everyone else, Heidi is referring to a moderately famous person who has requested my coaching services (I’m afraid I won’t reveal a name though for confidentiality and professional reasons). Sam xxx Hey sweetie!

It took me a while to get what you were referring to but thanks! :)

For everyone else, Heidi is referring to a moderately famous person who has requested my coaching services (I’m afraid I won’t reveal a name though for confidentiality and professional reasons).

Sam xxx

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3139 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 07 Oct 2009 12:59:59 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3139 Hi Eva, Yes it depends wholly on the type of person and how they deal with certain strains in a relationship. There isn’t a categorical answer for all relationships, which is why I always gather as much contextual detail and background information from couples who come to me with issues of this sort before giving personalised advice. Thanks for commenting, :) Sam Hi Eva,

Yes it depends wholly on the type of person and how they deal with certain strains in a relationship. There isn’t a categorical answer for all relationships, which is why I always gather as much contextual detail and background information from couples who come to me with issues of this sort before giving personalised advice.

Thanks for commenting, :)

Sam

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3138 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 07 Oct 2009 12:59:02 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3138 Hi Sabrina, thanks a lot! :) I hope you don’t mind but I thought I would repost your response on twitter regarding this article, as it highlights an important point: “re: today's article the only breaks i take are permanent ones if we cant work it out together we damn sure cant work it out apart” - @immoralthings People going through problems in their relationship often have the distorted view that sanctioned time apart will make things easier. You can be together and still take time alone to rationalise feelings but the difference is that the relationship is still real and you can communicate as such with your partner during that time. By definition, a ‘break’ is different to breaking-up and then getting back together later in life but the sentiment is essentially the same. If ‘taking a break’ really is the only option left then perhaps the problems of the relationship are inconsolable. It’s great to have an authoritative stance in situations like this as Sabrina suggests, as it will greatly avoid any confusion or uncertainty surrounding the relationship and your happiness. Thanks for commenting Sabrina and I hope you don’t mind me reposting your ‘tweet’. :) Sam Hi Sabrina, thanks a lot! :)

I hope you don’t mind but I thought I would repost your response on twitter regarding this article, as it highlights an important point:

“re: today’s article the only breaks i take are permanent ones if we cant work it out together we damn sure cant work it out apart” – @immoralthings

People going through problems in their relationship often have the distorted view that sanctioned time apart will make things easier. You can be together and still take time alone to rationalise feelings but the difference is that the relationship is still real and you can communicate as such with your partner during that time.

By definition, a ‘break’ is different to breaking-up and then getting back together later in life but the sentiment is essentially the same. If ‘taking a break’ really is the only option left then perhaps the problems of the relationship are inconsolable.

It’s great to have an authoritative stance in situations like this as Sabrina suggests, as it will greatly avoid any confusion or uncertainty surrounding the relationship and your happiness.

Thanks for commenting Sabrina and I hope you don’t mind me reposting your ‘tweet’. :)

Sam

]]> By: Heidi http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3137 Heidi Wed, 07 Oct 2009 09:52:16 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3137 I think Mr D would be thrilled to have you as a relationship coach!! X x I think Mr D would be thrilled to have you as a relationship coach!! X x

]]> By: Eva http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3135 Eva Wed, 07 Oct 2009 08:59:13 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3135 I have always been from the point of view that going on a break is a bad thing, but you have shown here that it can sometimes be a good option in some situations. I personally think it would be difficult to reconcile after the temporary break up, but obviously it works for some! Oh and I agree with Sabrina : ) x x x I have always been from the point of view that going on a break is a bad thing, but you have shown here that it can sometimes be a good option in some situations. I personally think it would be difficult to reconcile after the temporary break up, but obviously it works for some!

Oh and I agree with Sabrina : ) x x x

]]> By: Sabrina Chapman http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/10/break-good-bad/#comment-3134 Sabrina Chapman Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:28:37 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=466#comment-3134 I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts...its so nice to hear a perspective that gives sound reasonable advice that will not leave you sorry....keep it coming! I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts…its so nice to hear a perspective that gives sound reasonable advice that will not leave you sorry….keep it coming!

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