I haven’t heard of The Wackness before but I just read a description of the movie and it sounds entertaining so thanks for recommending it.

I totally agree with using caution when watching a sexually graphic movie. One thing I would say though is that pushing the boundaries is a good way to find where those boundaries are.

I’ve watched Shortbus as a date several times and I would usually say “a friend recommended it”. This sort of alleviated me from any blame if she really dislikes it, which will be clear very early on if I recall the first scene correctly haha.

Thanks for commenting,

Sam

That’s a great story and it is crazy how people can pop up when you least expect it.

Obviously a lot of my suggestions would be based around how much comfort you have built with one another. If things have started to get “steamy” during the online chats then the date can clearly progress any way you want it to, so make sure you lead the interactions and activities when you meet up.

As for specific things to do, as I mentioned in the article ‘The perfect first date’, the best dates are ones where you can interact freely, have uninterrupted fun with each other and have the opportunity to be in physical contact with each other.

If there is a funky suburb near where you live, simply take her there and explore, then perhaps go to a nice bar/coffee shop. After that you can mention something cool back at yours. It doesn’t have to be a movie, although you can use some of the ones recommended above if you do want to watch a movie. You can simply ‘hang out’, perhaps watch some funny YouTube videos and make sure you are physically escalating if that is the way it is heading. Don’t just wait for something to happen if you want it to!

Obviously you can plan a more elaborate date if you want to but it really isn’t necessary at this stage. Getting to know each other and having fun can be done with even the simplest of activities or no activity at all so to speak.

Let me know how it turns out,

Sam

Thanks for the link… I checked it out and Jodie makes some interesting comparisons. I wouldn’t say I agree with all the personality traits linked to certain genres but a lot of them are spot-on!

Good point; there should never be too many hard and fast rules when it comes to dating. Funnily enough though, putting too much emphasis on a date in general (or ‘liking’ your date too much early on) can actually have the reverse than desired effect, so it’s definitely best to keep everything as open as possible like you say.

Thanks for your comment,
Sam

http://www.slinkydating.com/2009/05/what-your-partners-film-tastes-says.html

I find it depends more how much I like someone as to what film I’ll suggest for a date!

Henry