Comments on: Cheating on a partner does not matter

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 22:43:53 +0000

Thanks a lot… I appreciate the feedback!

By: Damon Wenkrik

Damon Wenkrik — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 03:04:58 +0000

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By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Fri, 15 May 2009 17:21:55 +0000

Hey Mr.Greg,

Yes, although getting some sort of revenge can feel relieving at the time, it is almost always regretted further down the line. It’s great that you’ve learnt from the situation and who’s to say you can’t rekindle some of the friendships over time.

Thanks for your comment,
Sam

By: Mr.Greg

Mr.Greg — Fri, 15 May 2009 01:48:09 +0000

Great article mate.
I have experience of being cheated on and not only did I react really badly and said some horrible things to my ex gf, I also emailed nasty things to her friends and family which I also really regret as I was really tight with them all. Now they wont speak to me.
Wish I had read this article and the one you linked to back then but I tell you it wont happen again.
Cheers mate.

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:30:15 +0000

Hi,

Yes I definitely agree… Many times the emotional bond is far worse and drunken one-night stands seem somewhat easier to justify than a lengthy affair. The only problem with emotional bonding is it is so hard to quantify… Is a flirty “hello” with the receptionist each day at work too much for example? This is where trusting your partner comes into play.

I for one am not ashamed that I ‘flirt’ with a lot of women that I meet (especially when I am teaching students privately)… It has become part of my character and Heidi accepts this. However, there are never any underlying connotations and I would never let it go any further than that, always letting it be known I am in a relationship where appropriate.

Thanks for your comment,
Sam

By: Samuel McCrohan

Samuel McCrohan — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:00:13 +0000

Hi Jen,
Thankyou for your kind words about the article!

Yes everyone has had times in the past where they didn’t necessarily act in the best way (I have loads myself) but the key thing is using them to learn from, so if a similar thing ever happens again, we can deal with it in a more favourable way.

Thanks for your comment,
Sam

By: delicate flower

delicate flower — Thu, 14 May 2009 10:33:57 +0000

Hey..Interesting article. I want to comment on the ways one might be ‘unfaithful’. It seems to me that many people focus on the sex act as the ultimate sign of unfaithfulness. I always thought that if I was going to find out my husband had cheated I’d prefer just sex as opposed to knowing he’d developed an emotional attachment.. It is precisely the emotional piece, like coffee together every morning or constant long ‘friendly’ emails that I worried about. He didn’t see that as being ‘unfaithful’!!
I agree with your assessment that there are always underlying issues. I don’t have a need- unfortunately- to worry about communication and clarification of a relationship right now. But when I get there again I will be mindful of your advice.
Thanks

By: Jen Goodhue

Jen Goodhue — Thu, 14 May 2009 01:21:30 +0000

Well Sam, I have to say that I was quite worried when I read this title but suffice to say it all made sense when I read this wonderful article.

I have had to deal with an unfaithful partner in the past (he was my fiance at the time which may have made it worse) and I did not deal with it well at all. You made some great points in this article and I loved reading this.

All the best

Jen