Comments on: Managing a long distance relationship http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/ Relationship and Dating Advice Wed, 08 Sep 2010 00:49:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/#comment-3071 Samuel McCrohan Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:14:04 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=162#comment-3071 Hi Emma, Wow that is about as long-distance as you can get. However, it definitely can work as long as you both WANT to make it work. I know of a couple who remained in a relationship whilst one was in England and the other was in New Zealand for three years, so actually a very similar circumstance. They are still together now five years later so it can be done! Will either of you be able to visit each other during the next four years? I know travelling that far isn’t exactly cheap or convenient but seeing each other at least a few times a year will help a lot in keeping the relationship real. Other than that, by talking as often as possible and continuing to mutually make an effort with the relationship, keeping some of the points mentioned above in mind, I’m sure you can make it work. :) Keep me updated, Sam x Hi Emma,

Wow that is about as long-distance as you can get. However, it definitely can work as long as you both WANT to make it work. I know of a couple who remained in a relationship whilst one was in England and the other was in New Zealand for three years, so actually a very similar circumstance. They are still together now five years later so it can be done!

Will either of you be able to visit each other during the next four years? I know travelling that far isn’t exactly cheap or convenient but seeing each other at least a few times a year will help a lot in keeping the relationship real.

Other than that, by talking as often as possible and continuing to mutually make an effort with the relationship, keeping some of the points mentioned above in mind, I’m sure you can make it work. :)

Keep me updated,

Sam x

]]> By: Emma Phillips http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/#comment-3063 Emma Phillips Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:59:04 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=162#comment-3063 I found this article really helpful. I've been in a long distance relationship before, but my current boyfriend and I are going through a much harder relationship than the previous. We met in our hometown but due to the recession his father was made redunant and was offered a new job in Australia. He wasn't supposed to move their with his family but while out there for a period of two weeks he decided to never come back to the UK. We broke up and after a month and a half without speaking we admitted to one another than our love was proven to be undying. We're now back together, but the only downside is that he is going to university over there and will be there for around 4 years. We've both decided to be 100% commited to this and one another as we'd both rather wait several years to be with one another than never have eachother again. We don't speak that often; only for around an hour every day if I'm lucky due to the time difference and I'm finding this terribly hard. I really want this to work out but I'm constantly worried he'll find someone else or he will fall out of love with me. x I found this article really helpful. I’ve been in a long distance relationship before, but my current boyfriend and I are going through a much harder relationship than the previous. We met in our hometown but due to the recession his father was made redunant and was offered a new job in Australia. He wasn’t supposed to move their with his family but while out there for a period of two weeks he decided to never come back to the UK. We broke up and after a month and a half without speaking we admitted to one another than our love was proven to be undying. We’re now back together, but the only downside is that he is going to university over there and will be there for around 4 years. We’ve both decided to be 100% commited to this and one another as we’d both rather wait several years to be with one another than never have eachother again. We don’t speak that often; only for around an hour every day if I’m lucky due to the time difference and I’m finding this terribly hard. I really want this to work out but I’m constantly worried he’ll find someone else or he will fall out of love with me. x

]]> By: JaneRadriges http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/#comment-1600 JaneRadriges Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:59:58 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=162#comment-1600 Hi, gr8 post thanks for posting. Information is useful! Hi, gr8 post thanks for posting. Information is useful!

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/#comment-78 Samuel McCrohan Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:58:25 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=162#comment-78 Hiya, Great point and I can definitely relate to it. When Heidi calls me unannounced and I happen to be in the middle of some important work, I find it very hard to suddenly switch to fun, conversation mode in an instant. I think this is true of most people. By far our best times talking together are when neither of us are pre-occupied with other things and can totally engage with each other... In bed, just prior to going to sleep is generally a good time. :) Yes, skype is great isn't it! Coupled with a webcam, it really is the closest you can get to feeling like you're right next to each other. I actually bought Heidi a webcam as a 'going away to Uni' present last year... I handmade the box and it was bloomin' marvellous if I do say so myself... 'Talk to Sam 3000' I think it was called! :) Thanks for your comment, Sam x Hiya,
Great point and I can definitely relate to it. When Heidi calls me unannounced and I happen to be in the middle of some important work, I find it very hard to suddenly switch to fun, conversation mode in an instant. I think this is true of most people.
By far our best times talking together are when neither of us are pre-occupied with other things and can totally engage with each other… In bed, just prior to going to sleep is generally a good time. :)
Yes, skype is great isn’t it! Coupled with a webcam, it really is the closest you can get to feeling like you’re right next to each other. I actually bought Heidi a webcam as a ‘going away to Uni’ present last year… I handmade the box and it was bloomin’ marvellous if I do say so myself… ‘Talk to Sam 3000′ I think it was called! :)
Thanks for your comment,
Sam x

]]> By: a fake jamaican http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/04/managing-long-distance-relationship/#comment-77 a fake jamaican Thu, 02 Apr 2009 17:29:03 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=162#comment-77 i find that the hardest part about long-distance is trying to stay active in your own relationship. both me and my boyfriend have very different schedules, and when we finally do get on the phone with each other, it can sometimes be monotonous because we're thinking about other things... it's almost like having two separate lives. i can't describe it, but all i can say is that a long-distance relationship (obviously) takes wayyyyy more active input from both of you than a normal relationship. also, skype skype skype helps. i find that the hardest part about long-distance is trying to stay active in your own relationship. both me and my boyfriend have very different schedules, and when we finally do get on the phone with each other, it can sometimes be monotonous because we’re thinking about other things… it’s almost like having two separate lives. i can’t describe it, but all i can say is that a long-distance relationship (obviously) takes wayyyyy more active input from both of you than a normal relationship.

also, skype skype skype helps.

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