I agree that it is definitely obvious when someone is giving out false compliments, no matter how good at deception they are. The way to get lots of deserving compliments is simple… Do lots of things that deserve compliments!

I love your list of qualities! Maturity is definitely a good trait to look for in a partner, which will reduce the amount of unnecessary arguments or small acts of inconsideration in a relationship.

Thanks for your insightful comment,
Sam

I love your article, you have some great ideas! I agree with what you said about giving out compliments that are deserving, it just feels fake and contrived when someone is constantly giving out compliments just to impress. Although I’m not saying that loads of compliments are a bad thing!!

I just thought I would mention the qualities that I look for : ) They are as follows:
Fun
Sociable
Thoughtful
Generous
Mature
Happy
…My boyfriend is all of the above!

Keep the articles coming, I love your stuff : ) x x

Yes I know what you mean. I haven’t been to LA before so I can’t comment specifically on that; I have heard that it can be a somewhat superficial atmosphere though.

Great list; fun is another important one for me.

Whilst I agree that some people can have a more argumentative nature than others, you will play a large part into whether someone is argumentative or not. What I mean is if you don’t like arguments, then don’t allow arguments to manifest in the first place. This is something I will write more about in the future.

As for wanting a rich woman; I think it’s fair enough to not want a girl who will be financially dependent on you in any way, but if you’re searching for the reverse role (as in a woman who will have enough money for you too) then I can’t say it is the best way to become rich!

Your last quality is great… I also love women who are opinionated and take initiative in social situations.

Take it easy,
Sam

That’s a great list, thanks for sharing it. Yes I would say it is true that most men know that the first four traits you listed are what a woman likes in a man and these are traits you will quickly discover through spending a short amount of time with someone. The tricky part in this instance will be deciphering if they are genuine traits or they are just ‘putting on a show’ to try and impress you.

Humour is a great one and one of the main factors of attraction I teach. However, there is a difference between ‘being a funny person’ and being able to make a woman laugh. It is a lot easier to be humorous than most guys think.

Take care,
Sam

Yes a lot of people think it will be an easy and futile task before actually attempting it properly. Put some thought to it and I’m sure you’ll figure it out perfectly. The people who never get round to doing something like this are generally the ones who write to me complaining of bad relationships and not finding what they want.

Thanks for the congratulations and yes Seth Godin’s blog is awesome. It’s one of the first blogs I subscribed to and he seems to consistently come up with great, to the point advice on marketing and public speaking.

Thanks for your comment,
Sam