I’m using a custom stylesheet that I created to get it looking as it is (and for all the fonts and layout on the website in fact). You need a basic knowledge of CSS but it’s actually quite simple. I think the default filename for the file in question in wordpress is stylesheet.css and you can basically mess around with parts of the code at a time to get it looking how you like. I would only do this if you’re confident with what you’re editting though… and make sure to keep backups!

If you want some extra help with any of it then feel free to e-mail me and I’ll point out the specific parts of the code to modify as well as some examples if you would like.

Sam

this movie is a must see. I made a 10 minute video on Nicolas Cage under the title ‘Caged Talent’ (within a post with the same title on my blog), where I’ve build in some scenes from The Family Man and Leaving Las Vegas.

I’m normally quite up on my movie knowledge but it seems this one has slipped by me!

Sam

That’s a good idea about making light of a situation… I imagine you and your husband have a specific ‘vibe’ between you that allows you to do this. I’d be wary of couples who aren’t necessarily on the same wavelength or equally invested in an argument in making jokes if it might come across as condescending but nonetheless it is great advice to try and deescalate arguments any way possible.

As you say, it’s great to avoid name-calling and raised voices. These sorts of things are inevitably always regretted later on and can be damaging to the relationship as a whole if they are particularly abusive.

Thanks for your comment,

Sam

They are some great points, thanks for sharing them.

I like how you relate arguments to simply being different patterns of thinking. This is definitely true of arguments based on opinions or emotions. The times where the mindset might become slightly harder to apply is during logical arguments, or rather when two people argue about something where someone is theoretically ‘correct’. In these instances, even if you ‘know’ you are right it is still wholly counterproductive to ‘prove someone wrong’ in an argumentative way.

I like your suggestion at the end of your comment about focusing on the bigger picture rather than the present moment… or rather CHANGING the present moment to that of positive emotions! That is why I recommended the ‘having some space’ point, for these particular instances.

Thanks for your comment,

Sam

PS: No typos to be found… I can’t believe English is your third language… How long have you been speaking it? I’ve started to try and learn Mandarin (my older brother lives in Beijing so I figure it will be useful), yet I imagine it will be years until I can write the language!

“We have a house in Jersey….”

Nic broke my heart with this!