Comments on: Text message flirting guidelines http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/ Relationship and Dating Advice Wed, 08 Sep 2010 00:49:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-112 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 10 Apr 2009 10:22:17 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-112 Hey Analeese, I appreciate what you are saying but it simply isn’t that easy for a lot of guys. I get a countless number of e-mails from students every week purporting text-related problems that are so trivial to the actual bonding of two people but have ruined potentially fulfilling relationships. There are so many counter-productive things that guys and girls do with the aim of creating attraction and rapport, mainly as a direct result of social conditioning and more specifically the whole pursuer/prize agenda of dating. Texting is a sad way for a relationship to be halted, before it’s even been given a chance. I always advocate acting genuinely and with integrity but simply put, a lot of guys haven’t been taught the best ways to convey their personalities to attract a woman and this goes for texting too. To be honest I could have had just one tip to trump this whole article... ‘Get the person you like on the phone and arrange a meet-up in real life’ and this is what the article was leading towards, in a way that would be easy for someone whom texting is not too far outside their comfort zone, whereas other methods would be. Thanks for your comment... I like women with strong opinions! :) Sam x Hey Analeese,

I appreciate what you are saying but it simply isn’t that easy for a lot of guys. I get a countless number of e-mails from students every week purporting text-related problems that are so trivial to the actual bonding of two people but have ruined potentially fulfilling relationships.

There are so many counter-productive things that guys and girls do with the aim of creating attraction and rapport, mainly as a direct result of social conditioning and more specifically the whole pursuer/prize agenda of dating. Texting is a sad way for a relationship to be halted, before it’s even been given a chance.

I always advocate acting genuinely and with integrity but simply put, a lot of guys haven’t been taught the best ways to convey their personalities to attract a woman and this goes for texting too. To be honest I could have had just one tip to trump this whole article… ‘Get the person you like on the phone and arrange a meet-up in real life’ and this is what the article was leading towards, in a way that would be easy for someone whom texting is not too far outside their comfort zone, whereas other methods would be.

Thanks for your comment… I like women with strong opinions! :)

Sam x

]]> By: Analeese http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-109 Analeese Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:07:26 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-109 Hello Sam, I have to say a lot of this article really infuriated me! When it comes to sending text messages I think you are thinking about it way too much. Let me tell inquisitive daters reading this - for goodness sake, if you want to text someone just text them! Don't play games! If you wait six hours or so every time you send a text, in my view, you're just showing that you're either too inconsiderate or lazy to make time to reply or you don't really like the person you are texting all that much. If you want to text back immediately and frequently then just do it. If you don't then you'll just be hiding your true personality traits. If the receiver of the texts finds this annoying then this is a good hint that a relationship will not work - you don't work in the same way. The same applies if you usually take a long time replying to texts simply because you are busy - if the receiver can't cope with your hectic lifestyle then a relationship with them would not work. Of course this is simply my opinion and we can see through Heidi's post that there are some girls who do not agree with me, but through my experience talking to girl friends this is the main consensus! Hello Sam,
I have to say a lot of this article really infuriated me!
When it comes to sending text messages I think you are thinking about it way too much.
Let me tell inquisitive daters reading this – for goodness sake, if you want to text someone just text them! Don’t play games! If you wait six hours or so every time you send a text, in my view, you’re just showing that you’re either too inconsiderate or lazy to make time to reply or you don’t really like the person you are texting all that much.
If you want to text back immediately and frequently then just do it. If you don’t then you’ll just be hiding your true personality traits. If the receiver of the texts finds this annoying then this is a good hint that a relationship will not work – you don’t work in the same way. The same applies if you usually take a long time replying to texts simply because you are busy – if the receiver can’t cope with your hectic lifestyle then a relationship with them would not work.

Of course this is simply my opinion and we can see through Heidi’s post that there are some girls who do not agree with me, but through my experience talking to girl friends this is the main consensus!

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-69 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 01 Apr 2009 09:53:09 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-69 Hi Raiul, Thanks for your reply... I'm glad you liked the article. Your English seems pretty good to me. :) Take care, Sam Hi Raiul,
Thanks for your reply… I’m glad you liked the article.
Your English seems pretty good to me. :)
Take care,
Sam

]]> By: RaiulBaztepo http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-68 RaiulBaztepo Wed, 01 Apr 2009 09:33:01 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-68 Hello! Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource! PS: Sorry for my bad english, I'v just started to learn this language ;) See you! Your, Raiul Baztepo Hello!
Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language ;)
See you!
Your, Raiul Baztepo

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-43 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 25 Mar 2009 13:54:32 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-43 Hey Christina, haha never underestimate the power of Sebastian the Crab (despite the fact he's a lobster)!! That's a great point. I presume it worked so well because it was mutual. Although you had laid down the Christina law :), it seems he was equally keen and excited with the many texts and seeing each other lots. You hit the nail on the head when you said that it was all exciting rather than needy. How did you guys meet out of interest? Thanks for your comment my dear and I hope you like the website, :) Sam Hey Christina,
haha never underestimate the power of Sebastian the Crab (despite the fact he’s a lobster)!!
That’s a great point. I presume it worked so well because it was mutual. Although you had laid down the Christina law :) , it seems he was equally keen and excited with the many texts and seeing each other lots. You hit the nail on the head when you said that it was all exciting rather than needy. How did you guys meet out of interest?
Thanks for your comment my dear and I hope you like the website, :)
Sam

]]> By: Christina http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-40 Christina Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:46:24 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-40 Sam I'm very impressed with all the advice and I do definately agree with the majority of the points made. I did however, take a completely different approach and remember saying to my boyfriend of now three years at the point of number exchange, "Don't take hours responding to my texts if you like me because if you like me you'll text and if you don't you wont, the space inbetween doesnt bother me!" It may sound to the point but I thought I was quite tactful and said it in a funny way and it seemed to work as we were frantically texting and meeting up practically every day over the summer, it was so exciting and I wasn't any less thrilled by the fast pace but all the more excited as they were all cheeky and very funny texts (yes im hilairious) :) I guess every situation is different and I think the fast pace only worked because the texts were more exciting than needy, I just felt like we wanted each other more and we didnt let the rules get in the way P.S He didn't however, serenade me on his knees with "Under the Sea!" so extra points were definately lost there xx Sam I’m very impressed with all the advice and I do definately agree with the majority of the points made. I did however, take a completely different approach and remember saying to my boyfriend of now three years at the point of number exchange, “Don’t take hours responding to my texts if you like me because if you like me you’ll text and if you don’t you wont, the space inbetween doesnt bother me!” It may sound to the point but I thought I was quite tactful and said it in a funny way and it seemed to work as we were frantically texting and meeting up practically every day over the summer, it was so exciting and I wasn’t any less thrilled by the fast pace but all the more excited as they were all cheeky and very funny texts (yes im hilairious) :) I guess every situation is different and I think the fast pace only worked because the texts were more exciting than needy, I just felt like we wanted each other more and we didnt let the rules get in the way

P.S He didn’t however, serenade me on his knees with “Under the Sea!” so extra points were definately lost there xx

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-39 Samuel McCrohan Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:23:39 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-39 Aww you're such a sweetie! :) Your texts always make me smile too! :) It's funny you've mentioned the grammar and spelling point, as it was in my extended notes, that I cut out of the final article. I think it is largely a personal thing (which is why I didn't include it) but to me it does convey a certain level of intelligence to write correctly whilst on the other hand, text abbreviations convey a certain lack of intelligence (although it's not necessarily true). Thankyou for your contribution babycakes, :) xxx Aww you’re such a sweetie! :) Your texts always make me smile too! :)
It’s funny you’ve mentioned the grammar and spelling point, as it was in my extended notes, that I cut out of the final article. I think it is largely a personal thing (which is why I didn’t include it) but to me it does convey a certain level of intelligence to write correctly whilst on the other hand, text abbreviations convey a certain lack of intelligence (although it’s not necessarily true).
Thankyou for your contribution babycakes, :) xxx

]]> By: Heidi http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-37 Heidi Tue, 24 Mar 2009 15:27:16 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-37 I certainly did reply to Sam’s witty message (as they frequently are, even now after two years of being together!) and I definitely would say I made a good decision in doing so : ) The point that sparked the most interest for me is the amount and frequency of texting. When I first met Sam I was so used to texting back and fourth with my friends many times throughout the day, and I would try and reply almost instantly to any message I was sent. I therefore found it very difficult when I realised Sam would take a painstakingly long time to reply to my messages. Even though I found this hard and would have to restrain myself from not texting back too soon, I found the unknown exciting. When I eventually did receive a message from him, they would always make me smile : ) I loved challenge of thinking about an equally good reply…although mine rarely were! Another point I would like to add is the use of language in a text. I would previously write all my texts in shorthand, which I believe many people did and still do. I have changed this habit however and now write full sentences and use correct English grammar. The main reason for this is so that texts are legible and cannot be misinterpreted. What do you think about this Sam? I certainly did reply to Sam’s witty message (as they frequently are, even now after two years of being together!) and I definitely would say I made a good decision in doing so : )

The point that sparked the most interest for me is the amount and frequency of texting. When I first met Sam I was so used to texting back and fourth with my friends many times throughout the day, and I would try and reply almost instantly to any message I was sent. I therefore found it very difficult when I realised Sam would take a painstakingly long time to reply to my messages. Even though I found this hard and would have to restrain myself from not texting back too soon, I found the unknown exciting. When I eventually did receive a message from him, they would always make me smile : ) I loved challenge of thinking about an equally good reply…although mine rarely were!

Another point I would like to add is the use of language in a text. I would previously write all my texts in shorthand, which I believe many people did and still do. I have changed this habit however and now write full sentences and use correct English grammar. The main reason for this is so that texts are legible and cannot be misinterpreted. What do you think about this Sam?

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-32 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 20 Mar 2009 17:26:05 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-32 Ah my dear Christy, I'm interested as to how a customer 'hijacks' one's number! I'm shocked you're only nice because you're paid to be anyway... I hope that's not the reason you're oh so nice to me!! :) If you don't actually want to tell him you're not interested, I guess the only way to give him the message is to not reply to his texts. A bit of Christy-spit in his coffee might work too... actually, he might like that! :) xxx Ah my dear Christy,
I’m interested as to how a customer ‘hijacks’ one’s number! I’m shocked you’re only nice because you’re paid to be anyway… I hope that’s not the reason you’re oh so nice to me!! :) If you don’t actually want to tell him you’re not interested, I guess the only way to give him the message is to not reply to his texts. A bit of Christy-spit in his coffee might work too… actually, he might like that! :)
xxx

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/text-message-flirting-guidelines/#comment-31 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 20 Mar 2009 17:25:49 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=112#comment-31 Hey Clinton, I guess she did... else I've been dating an imaginary woman for two years! :O Hey Clinton,
I guess she did… else I’ve been dating an imaginary woman for two years! :O

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