Comments on: Steps for finding the perfect partner http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/ Relationship and Dating Advice Wed, 08 Sep 2010 00:49:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Bob Loblaw http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-1039 Bob Loblaw Mon, 25 May 2009 10:10:48 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-1039 Sam's a personal friend of mine, he asked me to look over his articles and comment on his writing style. I was offering him advice, there was no negativity intended. Sam’s a personal friend of mine, he asked me to look over his articles and comment on his writing style. I was offering him advice, there was no negativity intended.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-749 Samuel McCrohan Fri, 15 May 2009 18:32:55 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-749 Hello, First up, thankyou so much for taking the time to write those responses, your insights and awareness are outstanding! :) Thankyou for your kind words about the article and I agree with all the points you added on. People can definitely play an act in the beginning parts of a relationship so I agree seeing them in many different situations and over time before confidently committing is useful. It’s good that you seem so aware of the situations you have been or are in. I can tell from just these short passages that you’re an intelligent and strong woman who ultimately knows what to do in situations. Thankyou for writing and please keep in touch (sam@sparklife.info), :) Sam x Hello,

First up, thankyou so much for taking the time to write those responses, your insights and awareness are outstanding! :)

Thankyou for your kind words about the article and I agree with all the points you added on. People can definitely play an act in the beginning parts of a relationship so I agree seeing them in many different situations and over time before confidently committing is useful.

It’s good that you seem so aware of the situations you have been or are in. I can tell from just these short passages that you’re an intelligent and strong woman who ultimately knows what to do in situations.

Thankyou for writing and please keep in touch (sam@sparklife.info), :)

Sam x

]]> By: wATERgIRL http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-491 wATERgIRL Fri, 08 May 2009 19:29:41 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-491 One last thing... in reading my comment quickly after I hit SUBMIT, I noticed MUAH (that'd be me,heehee :p) had misspellings and gramatical errors, so yes, I am quite aware of them, no need to point it out, thank you though! I am a voracious reader and "self educator", so believe me when I say that little nuisances like that bother me more than your average cat! On to bigger and better things now...just wanted to clarify that I am aware those mistakes are there....all apologies if you can't even read it such nonsensical writing! J/K ;-) Have a good one to all , and Sam-Man, keep your insight/observations coming! It's excellent to sit back and read what you ALREADY know, yet be forced to pull it into the forefront of your mind. It is often the most logical and common sense ways of approaching things that we make that much more difficult,glad someone makes this ADHD girl stop and think even if just for a moment, then have those words pop back up in your mind again later to think on some more....and let's not forget words of wisdom on a stance in situations I have yet to think of or find a way to get the point OUT to make some sense. You really help in pushing home the idea of DON'T SETTLE! I love it(even though I'm guilty) and have a great way of getting the words out on things we are feeling inside but don't know how to pinpoint with words or actions. I'll say it again, thanks for helping to try and shine light on the cattle call of singles out there just moving along with the rest of the herd instead of doing what we already feel somwhere deep inside we should be doing instead of just being a "serial monogamist" leading to a trail of tears as well as 'What was I THINKING?!' I'm stuck,literally right now in a horrid thing,but was looking for that Prince Charming after a year of no-go's and now I have moved across the country with my child only to be stuck in a void of not only feeling empty, but mental and physical abuse...this coming from a 'man' who knows the wicked past I come from and promised to never do that or make me feel that way, yet here we are! Burns&blisters down my back after having boiled water thrown on me while standing there doing dishes because his trust is non-existant and he misread a text on my phone, LOL! I keep them all on there while he erases everything, if I had anything to hide the inbox wouldn't be full! TeeHee! SO LADIES(men too i suppose :)) , when I say see him in every situation possible before you commit to something, please please please play it out for as long as you can, no matter how much you feel like this is your version of 'The Notebook'....and if you have a child or children, take even MORE time! It's sad when he calls this man dad(pfft) and the child the man has from a previous marriage is his highlight, so it's not going to be good on several levels when it ends, which it will. I've tried til I know that I am with someone who only truly picked me as a 'status' symbol...so lame.But ya know, i fell for it too! Thought that he was being so real in saying thanks the Lord everyday for bringing a woman in his life that is not from CA and concerned with all the material items, etc. , that set me apart. Nope. He just wanted that tall blonde model in her 20's as he is 41 and must've needed that validation. I know with him being bipolar life is expected to be a rollercoaster at times, but even after havin 3 best friends with extreme cases and that were hospitalized too many times to count, this is a man that wants nothing to do with his meds until you walk them over...give him a drink..make sure they're swallowed...HEY! I have such bad back probs that I can't even move in the morning but do you think I've ever had him try and rub golf ball size knots out of check and see if there is any way to try and feel if the fluid coming out of your discs is even possible to be felt when things are worse than normal...I have to STOP NOW! Ok Doc Sam...how much do I owe ya?????? SO SORRY ABOUT THE NONSTOP FLOW OF WORDS,JUST STARTED AND NEVER STOPPED. That is....until....NOW! :-) One last thing… in reading my comment quickly after I hit SUBMIT, I noticed MUAH (that’d be me,heehee :p) had misspellings and gramatical errors, so yes, I am quite aware of them, no need to point it out, thank you though!
I am a voracious reader and “self educator”, so believe me when I say that little nuisances like that bother me more than your average cat!
On to bigger and better things now…just wanted to clarify that I am aware those mistakes are there….all apologies if you can’t even read it such nonsensical writing! J/K ;-)
Have a good one to all , and Sam-Man, keep your insight/observations coming! It’s excellent to sit back and read what you ALREADY know, yet be forced to pull it into the forefront of your mind. It is often the most logical and common sense ways of approaching things that we make that much more difficult,glad someone makes this ADHD girl stop and think even if just for a moment, then have those words pop back up in your mind again later to think on some more….and let’s not forget words of wisdom on a stance in situations I have yet to think of or find a way to get the point OUT to make some sense.
You really help in pushing home the idea of DON’T SETTLE! I love it(even though I’m guilty) and have a great way of getting the words out on things we are feeling inside but don’t know how to pinpoint with words or actions.
I’ll say it again, thanks for helping to try and shine light on the cattle call of singles out there just moving along with the rest of the herd instead of doing what we already feel somwhere deep inside we should be doing instead of just being a “serial monogamist” leading to a trail of tears as well as ‘What was I THINKING?!’
I’m stuck,literally right now in a horrid thing,but was looking for that Prince Charming after a year of no-go’s and now I have moved across the country with my child only to be stuck in a void of not only feeling empty, but mental and physical abuse…this coming from a ‘man’ who knows the wicked past I come from and promised to never do that or make me feel that way, yet here we are! Burns&blisters down my back after having boiled water thrown on me while standing there doing dishes because his trust is non-existant and he misread a text on my phone, LOL! I keep them all on there while he erases everything, if I had anything to hide the inbox wouldn’t be full! TeeHee!
SO LADIES(men too i suppose :) ) , when I say see him in every situation possible before you commit to something, please please please play it out for as long as you can, no matter how much you feel like this is your version of ‘The Notebook’….and if you have a child or children, take even MORE time! It’s sad when he calls this man dad(pfft) and the child the man has from a previous marriage is his highlight, so it’s not going to be good on several levels when it ends, which it will. I’ve tried til I know that I am with someone who only truly picked me as a ‘status’ symbol…so lame.But ya know, i fell for it too! Thought that he was being so real in saying thanks the Lord everyday for bringing a woman in his life that is not from CA and concerned with all the material items, etc. , that set me apart.
Nope.
He just wanted that tall blonde model in her 20′s as he is 41 and must’ve needed that validation. I know with him being bipolar life is expected to be a rollercoaster at times, but even after havin 3 best friends with extreme cases and that were hospitalized too many times to count, this is a man that wants nothing to do with his meds until you walk them over…give him a drink..make sure they’re swallowed…HEY! I have such bad back probs that I can’t even move in the morning but do you think I’ve ever had him try and rub golf ball size knots out of check and see if there is any way to try and feel if the fluid coming out of your discs is even possible to be felt when things are worse than normal…I have to STOP NOW!
Ok Doc Sam…how much do I owe ya?????? SO SORRY ABOUT THE NONSTOP FLOW OF WORDS,JUST STARTED AND NEVER STOPPED. That is….until….NOW!
:-)

]]> By: wATERgIRL http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-490 wATERgIRL Fri, 08 May 2009 18:45:11 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-490 Hello Bob, I'm sure you're already riled up about the way I used the letters to spell out my 'name', but I'd like to share what I see from the third point of view here. You have clicked on this web article for one reason or another, yet you bring negativity over something as trivial as a definition. I can almost guarantee that 99.9% of people reading this even thought of that word as they are looking for ways to improve THEIR happiness. I don't wish to bash you, yet, you seem so jaded in one persons views of a way to try and find what they are looking for. I'm sorry if the reason you are on here is that you were hurt terribly in the past, but the old saying stays true still; "What doesn't break you makes you stronger." I will not go tit for tat over who has had the worst of things happen to them in relationships,however,one that does stick out is trying to be murdered by a man I had been with for 7 years. But here I am! I was saved by neighbors and sure there are days where I wanna say FORGET IT!, but having someone as a companion by your side really can make life that much more enjoyable. So please, before you come into a +positive+ area to throw in petty nonsense, just try and think of people that are reading this trying to get back up in the saddle...we don't want to have them feeling as if there is some hope by article's end and then read some comments that bring them back to that dark place. FORTUNE FAVORS THE BOLD!!!!! It may take some time to finally get your formula right, but once you do....well, we all know the rest :) P.S. Sam is RIGHT! As a female, I tend to jump into things so fast and find out that they are the opposite of what I thought, so ladies, before you make any bold moves to be exclusive, try and make sure you seem him in almost any situation that can come your way as a couple so that you know if he has those same views and reacts in a way you can handle...and NOT in the puppy-dog love phase...you only see a glimpse of the real person as they want you to think they're cool as a fan,not jealous,have anger under control, you catch my drift. And if you jump in with a person that has a child, though you may start off as an enemy with the "other person" as there a complex makeup of feelings involved there...they may just turn out to be your best glimpse into the future...it was war with myself and the "previous wife"(though we're not married, that had been the long term plan). So crazy I can't get into it here, but one day after the person in common we had, she gave me more insight into what to expect and gave good advice as well. Not many ex's would tell you to get out while you can since you are so young and SHE has noticed that a spark she once saw in me was fading every time we ran across each other and said go while you can, I wasted too many years and lost who I was. Coming from a happily married woman who you fought in court to lay it out for you...that is a conversation I will NEVER forget. I've been warned! If things were different with the current situation, I would have gone that day as I was at wits end and I already knew I was not the same quirky, goofy, artistic blonde. On a side note-crapass relationships can cause horrible idea blocks for artists unless you want to go over to the "dark side", LOL! Wow, this is super long, keep up with paying it forward Sam!!!!! All good things eventually come to those who want to share their knowlege...some immediate, others, well, I'm still waiting! GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE LOVE ADVENTURERS!YOU ARE BRAVE AND I COMMEND YOU! <3 Hello Bob,
I’m sure you’re already riled up about the way I used the letters to spell out my ‘name’, but I’d like to share what I see from the third point of view here.
You have clicked on this web article for one reason or another, yet you bring negativity over something as trivial as a definition. I can almost guarantee that 99.9% of people reading this even thought of that word as they are looking for ways to improve THEIR happiness.
I don’t wish to bash you, yet, you seem so jaded in one persons views of a way to try and find what they are looking for.
I’m sorry if the reason you are on here is that you were hurt terribly in the past, but the old saying stays true still; “What doesn’t break you makes you stronger.” I will not go tit for tat over who has had the worst of things happen to them in relationships,however,one that does stick out is trying to be murdered by a man I had been with for 7 years. But here I am!
I was saved by neighbors and sure there are days where I wanna say FORGET IT!, but having someone as a companion by your side really can make life that much more enjoyable.
So please, before you come into a +positive+ area to throw in petty nonsense, just try and think of people that are reading this trying to get back up in the saddle…we don’t want to have them feeling as if there is some hope by article’s end and then read some comments that bring them back to that dark place.
FORTUNE FAVORS THE BOLD!!!!! It may take some time to finally get your formula right, but once you do….well, we all know the rest :)
P.S. Sam is RIGHT! As a female, I tend to jump into things so fast and find out that they are the opposite of what I thought, so ladies, before you make any bold moves to be exclusive, try and make sure you seem him in almost any situation that can come your way as a couple so that you know if he has those same views and reacts in a way you can handle…and NOT in the puppy-dog love phase…you only see a glimpse of the real person as they want you to think they’re cool as a fan,not jealous,have anger under control, you catch my drift.
And if you jump in with a person that has a child, though you may start off as an enemy with the “other person” as there a complex makeup of feelings involved there…they may just turn out to be your best glimpse into the future…it was war with myself and the “previous wife”(though we’re not married, that had been the long term plan).
So crazy I can’t get into it here, but one day after the person in common we had, she gave me more insight into what to expect and gave good advice as well. Not many ex’s would tell you to get out while you can since you are so young and SHE has noticed that a spark she once saw in me was fading every time we ran across each other and said go while you can, I wasted too many years and lost who I was. Coming from a happily married woman who you fought in court to lay it out for you…that is a conversation I will NEVER forget. I’ve been warned! If things were different with the current situation, I would have gone that day as I was at wits end and I already knew I was not the same quirky, goofy, artistic blonde.
On a side note-crapass relationships can cause horrible idea blocks for artists unless you want to go over to the “dark side”, LOL!
Wow, this is super long, keep up with paying it forward Sam!!!!! All good things eventually come to those who want to share their knowlege…some immediate, others, well, I’m still waiting!
GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE LOVE ADVENTURERS!YOU ARE BRAVE AND I COMMEND YOU! <3

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-15 Samuel McCrohan Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:43:22 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-15 Cheers Bob. What would I do without you! :) What did you think of the actual content of the post? Sam Cheers Bob. What would I do without you! :)
What did you think of the actual content of the post?
Sam

]]> By: Bob Loblaw http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-13 Bob Loblaw Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:37:49 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-13 I've never heard it used as obsolete; excessive or unnecessary wouldn't have made much sense in your sentence. Also inflated is a poor substition... light cannot be inflated nor painted so the metaphor is all over the place. "Flattering light" is probably what you're going for. I’ve never heard it used as obsolete; excessive or unnecessary wouldn’t have made much sense in your sentence. Also inflated is a poor substition… light cannot be inflated nor painted so the metaphor is all over the place. “Flattering light” is probably what you’re going for.

]]> By: Sam http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-11 Sam Sat, 14 Mar 2009 16:39:28 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-11 I was always led to believe that superfluous meant 'excessive' but it seems it also means 'obsolete', so I guess it could be the wrong use in this particular context. Thanks for your correction Bob. :) Sam I was always led to believe that superfluous meant ‘excessive’ but it seems it also means ‘obsolete’, so I guess it could be the wrong use in this particular context. Thanks for your correction Bob. :)
Sam

]]> By: Bob Loblaw http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-10 Bob Loblaw Sat, 14 Mar 2009 14:38:52 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-10 Yes and I am aware I just spelt word wrong! Yes and I am aware I just spelt word wrong!

]]> By: Bob Loblaw http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/steps-finding-perfect-partner/#comment-9 Bob Loblaw Sat, 14 Mar 2009 14:36:49 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=82#comment-9 Sam, I think you need to look up the wors superfluous in a dictionary. Sam, I think you need to look up the wors superfluous in a dictionary.

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