Comments on: Why porn is bad and evil http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/ Relationship and Dating Advice Fri, 18 May 2012 12:28:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-6748 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 15 Jan 2012 22:41:53 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-6748 Hi Deborah, Although the above article focuses on the negative aspects of porn, I personally don’t think that it is always bad. It is all about perspective and moderation! Porn can definitely destroy trust and degrade men and women but there are couples (and even single men and women) that use it appropriately. There also exists genres of porn that focus far more on the loving and sensual aspects of sex and these do not promote the issues you mention. Thanks for commenting, Sam Hi Deborah,

Although the above article focuses on the negative aspects of porn, I personally don’t think that it is always bad. It is all about perspective and moderation!

Porn can definitely destroy trust and degrade men and women but there are couples (and even single men and women) that use it appropriately. There also exists genres of porn that focus far more on the loving and sensual aspects of sex and these do not promote the issues you mention.

Thanks for commenting,

Sam

]]> By: Deborah http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-6741 Deborah Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:07:26 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-6741 I agree with 100%. Porn will ruin a loving relation. It destroys trust, belittles and degrade not only women but also the men. Excuse you men, why would do that to yourself - self sex, sounds kinda gay to me. I agree with 100%. Porn will ruin a loving relation. It destroys trust, belittles and degrade not only women but also the men. Excuse you men, why would do that to yourself – self sex, sounds kinda gay to me.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-86 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 08 Apr 2009 00:06:47 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-86 Hi, If you are referring to the article itself then the ideas expressed are obviously my personal opinions and observations but I do believe they have substance behind them. I'm not aware of any official study that has uncovered any real side-effects from porn but my personal opinion is that porn, like anything else, should be kept in moderation to be healthy to someone's own development, sexually or otherwise. :) Thanks for visiting. Sam Hi,
If you are referring to the article itself then the ideas expressed are obviously my personal opinions and observations but I do believe they have substance behind them. I’m not aware of any official study that has uncovered any real side-effects from porn but my personal opinion is that porn, like anything else, should be kept in moderation to be healthy to someone’s own development, sexually or otherwise. :)
Thanks for visiting.
Sam

]]> By: Addeseelcow http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-85 Addeseelcow Tue, 07 Apr 2009 19:00:12 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-85 I'm new to this blog. Apologize for asking this though, but to OP... Do you know if this can be true? Thanks :) I’m new to this blog. Apologize for asking this though, but to OP…
Do you know if this can be true?
Thanks :)

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-56 Samuel McCrohan Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:35:33 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-56 Hey Dirk, I'd say it's a roughly equal share between social conformity and biological resistance (the latter of which wasn't relevant to this article, hence why I omitted it). Yes women logically know in this day and age that contraception renders almost all risk from sex obsolete, however we all equally know about the female emotional reaction to sex with a new person, commonly referred to as 'last minute resistance'. I purposefully refrained from tagging on the word 'main' in my analysis due to this fact, although I would say social conformity is becoming a far more prevalent factor to this discussion than the fear of pregnancy, in my generation at least. This was highlighted mostly during my University years. Fear of pregnancy is a far easier obstacle to overcome than a woman's disquietude at being branded a 'slut'. :) Thanks for your comment, Sam Hey Dirk,
I’d say it’s a roughly equal share between social conformity and biological resistance (the latter of which wasn’t relevant to this article, hence why I omitted it). Yes women logically know in this day and age that contraception renders almost all risk from sex obsolete, however we all equally know about the female emotional reaction to sex with a new person, commonly referred to as ‘last minute resistance’.
I purposefully refrained from tagging on the word ‘main’ in my analysis due to this fact, although I would say social conformity is becoming a far more prevalent factor to this discussion than the fear of pregnancy, in my generation at least. This was highlighted mostly during my University years. Fear of pregnancy is a far easier obstacle to overcome than a woman’s disquietude at being branded a ‘slut’. :)
Thanks for your comment,
Sam

]]> By: Dirk Diggler http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-55 Dirk Diggler Sun, 29 Mar 2009 19:42:00 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-55 "I believe this is the main reason why guys will much more readily sleep with an attractive female stranger than vice versa. As a general rule, females have not been exposed to so much pornography and therefore this is one of the reasons why women require a lot more of a connection with a man before sleeping with him." Nah, the main reason for this is that in the past women would get lumbered with a nice surprise 9 months after having sex, whereas men could go from knobbing woman to woman without the fear of a massive burden. Porn is a secondary factor, at best. Certainly not the "main reason". “I believe this is the main reason why guys will much more readily sleep with an attractive female stranger than vice versa. As a general rule, females have not been exposed to so much pornography and therefore this is one of the reasons why women require a lot more of a connection with a man before sleeping with him.”

Nah, the main reason for this is that in the past women would get lumbered with a nice surprise 9 months after having sex, whereas men could go from knobbing woman to woman without the fear of a massive burden.

Porn is a secondary factor, at best. Certainly not the “main reason”.

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-49 Samuel McCrohan Thu, 26 Mar 2009 09:30:31 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-49 Woh, I checked out the website that the second commenter recommended... I'm not sure if I was reading the wrong section but it seemed to be comprised solely of incest eroticism!! Titles such as 'Daddy's Little Slut' and 'Mother and Son Lust' are not for me thankyou. :) I think my girlfriend was more shocked by this than me... I found the way they were written rather comical. :) Sam Woh, I checked out the website that the second commenter recommended… I’m not sure if I was reading the wrong section but it seemed to be comprised solely of incest eroticism!! Titles such as ‘Daddy’s Little Slut’ and ‘Mother and Son Lust’ are not for me thankyou. :) I think my girlfriend was more shocked by this than me… I found the way they were written rather comical. :)
Sam

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-48 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 25 Mar 2009 23:07:38 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-48 Hey dude, Thanks for your comment and thanks for your link to the eroticism... I'll definitely have a read of some of those. :) I know you know the book already but for those that don't, I highly recommend the book 'My Secret Garden' by Nancy Friday... It's a compilation of real women's sexual fantasies and it has a lot of eye-openers in it that's for sure!! :) Take it easy, Sam Hey dude,
Thanks for your comment and thanks for your link to the eroticism… I’ll definitely have a read of some of those. :)
I know you know the book already but for those that don’t, I highly recommend the book ‘My Secret Garden’ by Nancy Friday… It’s a compilation of real women’s sexual fantasies and it has a lot of eye-openers in it that’s for sure!! :)
Take it easy,
Sam

]]> By: Samuel McCrohan http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-47 Samuel McCrohan Wed, 25 Mar 2009 23:06:51 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-47 Hey Lady V, Thanks for that revelation... I definitely suspected more girls watch porn than they let on... I imagine it's the same sort of ratio as the number of girls who own sextoys compared to the number who admit it! :) I would actually LOVE to read more romance novels; I've barely read any! Do you have any specific recommendations? :) I definitely agree that porn can excite new ideas into someone's sexlife, however there are generally far better educational-style products available for that where you can be more trusting of its authenticity. For example... People should never use porn as an educational resource for trying advanced sexual techniques for the first time in the same way as the pornstars. Pornstars have obviously worked up to a certain level that beginners simply shouldn't try to replicate. Anal sex is a good example of this and hence most people approach something like that in completely the wrong way. As for your personal points about the perils of porn, I have to say I only strongly agree with the last one about not masturbating too much. Watching porn or making a sex tape can be a wonderful exposé in a relationship, as long as it is done correctly, with preparation and whilst in the correct state of mind. Thanks for your insights, Sam PS: Are you sure huge thingamebobs and two minute orgasms are unrealistic!?!... ahem! :) Hey Lady V,
Thanks for that revelation… I definitely suspected more girls watch porn than they let on… I imagine it’s the same sort of ratio as the number of girls who own sextoys compared to the number who admit it! :)
I would actually LOVE to read more romance novels; I’ve barely read any! Do you have any specific recommendations? :)
I definitely agree that porn can excite new ideas into someone’s sexlife, however there are generally far better educational-style products available for that where you can be more trusting of its authenticity. For example… People should never use porn as an educational resource for trying advanced sexual techniques for the first time in the same way as the pornstars. Pornstars have obviously worked up to a certain level that beginners simply shouldn’t try to replicate. Anal sex is a good example of this and hence most people approach something like that in completely the wrong way.
As for your personal points about the perils of porn, I have to say I only strongly agree with the last one about not masturbating too much. Watching porn or making a sex tape can be a wonderful exposé in a relationship, as long as it is done correctly, with preparation and whilst in the correct state of mind.
Thanks for your insights,
Sam
PS: Are you sure huge thingamebobs and two minute orgasms are unrealistic!?!… ahem! :)

]]> By: Permission To Cum http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/03/porn-bad-evil/#comment-45 Permission To Cum Wed, 25 Mar 2009 17:48:49 +0000 http://sparklife.info/blog/?p=127#comment-45 Really Great Article Sam. This is something I've only noticed recently myself. Porn teaches men to believe that sex is just about sticking your dick in a woman that's physically attractive, when it's not just that. Physical attractiveness is only a small part of attractiveness. I think watching porn as a couple though is really cool. (I also think making it is cool too) I also really enjoy written porn. Like Literotica.com which is sexual fantasies. It's really awesome because you really get to use your imagination. Really Great Article Sam.
This is something I’ve only noticed recently myself.
Porn teaches men to believe that sex is just about sticking your dick in a woman that’s physically attractive, when it’s not just that. Physical attractiveness is only a small part of attractiveness.

I think watching porn as a couple though is really cool. (I also think making it is cool too)
I also really enjoy written porn. Like Literotica.com which is sexual fantasies. It’s really awesome because you really get to use your imagination.

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