Everyone knows that first impressions are key and research shows that humans will judge the most about you as a person within the first SEVEN seconds of meeting you!! This sounds absurd but it actually stems from a built-in survival technique in humans to judge who we will benefit from getting to know and who is, without being overly harsh, probably not worth knowing. Obviously these days it doesn’t transpire as cut and dry as this but you will still find that the more you work on your first impression, the more you will flourish in social interactions. Below is the first part of a list of ten things you can do to help you achieve this and ultimately improve your chances of dating the men or women you desire…

1) Smarten up your appearance:

It’s a sad affair how much we get judged by our appearance but if you think about it, your appearance says an awful lot about you. It shows how much you pride yourself and how willing you are to make the effort to present yourself in the best possible way. Not to mention if you think you look good, you will ultimately feel good about yourself, which is key to making a great first impression!

I used you have a routine whereby I would only wear my best clothes if I was off to do something significant or meet special friends. If I was just popping in to town or going shopping I would just throw on whatever I could find… I mean, who’s going to see me right! Well you never know who you’re going to bump into (if you know the story of how I met my girlfriend, you’ll know this is ever true for me) so always make sure you are clean and looking smart. I shall be writing a post on fashion and how to find your perfect style in the near future so stay tuned for something more comprehensive here.

2) Hang around with cool people who have their lives sorted:

The best way to sample living your dream life is to hang around with people who are already living that dream to some degree. If you want to become rich, you wouldn’t ask advice from a tramp, you’d preferably ask a self-made millionaire. Similarly, if you want to improve your dating life, it’s no use asking any friends who have their own dating woes. I realised this pretty early on when I wanted to get my social skills and love-life handled. In my first year of University, rather than going to clubs to try and unwittingly score with girls like my friends would, I would go out and try and scout out the guys who had that PRESENSE in the club… The guys who were like an unavoidable magnet for women. Pretty much all of my early development in this field was by hanging out with two guys I met this way who were exceptionally, naturally good with women and absorbing as much of their positive knowledge as possible.

3) Take up some interesting hobbies:

I’ve already drafted a post on what the best hobbies to meet members of the opposite sex are but it’s not just about that. You want to start living a life that is not only fulfilling for yourself, but that other people would want to be a part of! What’s more attractive to a woman: a guy who just likes watching TV, or a guy who loves sports, dancing, theatre, new experiences etc? By trying as many new things as possible you might also just find a new passion of yours that you never expected (mine turned out to be playing guitar and salsa dancing). So not only will taking up new hobbies enrich your character immensely, it will also give you extra opportunities to meet potential partners.

4) Get up to date on current events, entertainment news and gossip:

This is another case of developing your character so you’re more engaging to everyone you meet as well as being able to spontaneously produce a wealth of new conversation topics at a moment’s notice; everyone is interested in current affairs, whether they follow them or not. For the record, I actually rarely watch or read the national news as I believe the amount of negative news reported does nothing positive for those watching it. However, I get great enjoyment from reading senseless entertainment news (like that found on http://www.wwtdd.com) and the number of times I’ve used celebrity gossip to start up conversations with random people on the London Underground is fairly substantial.

5) Always be alert and on the ball:

As mentioned in the first point, you never know WHEN you’re going to meet that man or woman of your dreams… so always try and be refreshed, energised and alert. Many years ago I used to listen to my iPod wherever I went (it was ‘generation 1′ so that reveals just how long ago I mean). One day I was blissfully skipping along listening to some ska-punk music that I was into at the time, when I realised I had just unsuspectingly walked past an absolutely GORGEOUS girl and I was certain we had a ‘moment’ as we made passing eye-contact. Ok, this may seem like a rather trivial situation and my attraction was based purely on looks; there might not have been more to her than meets the eye. However, I sure was kicking myself the rest of that day, as I knew if I had been alert and in my normal state of mind, I would have stopped her. From that moment on I vowed not to pointlessly listen to my iPod again whilst commuting (I still enjoy listening to music all the time but I can listen to it when I’m at home and am not just listening to it to pass the time). The same goes for daydreaming, that I also used to be a big victim of. Always be alert and ready for anything because like I say, you never know when you might stumble upon that person of your dreams.

The second part of ’10 things you can do right now to improve your love life’ can be found HERE.

Much love,

Sam

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This entry was posted on Sunday, March 1st, 2009 at 11:24 pm by Samuel McCrohan and is filed under Dating.
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