Hello good people! 🙂
Well this website has been rather a long time coming. In fact I’ve had this domain name for well over a year now and whilst it has been used as a hub for a few other projects during this time, a relationships resource is what I’ve always intended for it; I merely wanted to make sure that I was qualified enough to really give guided advice on the subject first.
A Bit of background on me:
For about two years now I have worked with the world-wide LEADING Company in terms of dating science: Lovesystems, formerly known as The Mystery Method Corp (although what they are teaching now is widely evolved from what people know of the old company). They have been featured on primetime US television and in top publications. I have just returned from helping teach another bootcamp with them in London where we taught and helped a number of students to bring out their best and most attractive selves, simultaneously helping them enhance their dating lives. As rewarding as once again this weekend was, I have decided to expand from working solely as a dating coach. Whilst there is a considerable amount of prestige and money in this industry and what companies like Lovesystems are teaching at the moment is groundbreaking and really helping a wealth of guys across the globe, I feel I have personally conquered all there is to achieve in the ‘dating science’ sector of personal development and want to expand on that niche.
Where I am at now:
I’ve been in a monogamous and loving relationship for coming up to two years now and believe it or not, that is actually extremely rare for a ‘dating expert’. A lot of gurus in the field base so much of their identity and ego on ‘picking up women’ that it is pretty hard to break loose from that persona and settle down, and when they do, some guys find the temptation and allure of more girls too much. This is not to insult any of the amazing, internationally-acclaimed coaches I have worked alongside, who are all amazingly successful and charismatic friends of mine. Contrary to what I believe, a lot of successful people believe that the pinnacle of relationship mastery is being able to happily maintain several fulfilling relationships, openly and honestly at the same time, and that is fine.
So these realisations have led me to having spent the last eighteen months learning EVERYTHING I can on the subject of relationships, from absorbing every related book I can get my hands on, to testing and experiencing what works with my own relationship.
Whereas dating science can be very structured and specific, relationship advice is a lot broader, without so many ‘right answers’. Relationships are on the same timeline as dating, just a lot further along it, so obviously there are extensive variables involved, including emotions and life issues. The main catalyst for me really delving in to this area of personal development is to thwart the HORRIBLE advice that guys and girls alike are fed, mainly through mass-media and pop-culture, such as glossy magazines. I frequently buy a number of both men and women’s lifestyle magazines for both entertainment value and research, and constantly find myself cringing at some of the advice and techniques they advocate towards dating and relationships.
The purpose and goals of Sparklife.info:
The reason I have now decided to pursue and obsess myself with the understanding of relationships is partly due to the natural progression from dating coaching that I mentioned, and also so I can further enrich my own relationship. I don’t claim to always be doing everything right, but what I am always is AWARE and I strive to make my relationship the happiest and most fulfilling it can be for both me and my wonderful girlfriend. If you are in a relationship and aren’t willing to do the same thing with yours, you have to ask yourself why you are really in that relationship!
Although I have implied that this website will be solely for the education of relationships, I still love the theories surrounding meeting and connecting with other people, specifically members of the opposite sex. It would be a waste for me to ditch five years worth of exhaustive knowledge regarding dating science and social dynamics and so I will frequently contribute my thoughts on these topics too.
As this is a relatively new medium for me transpiring my ideas, I would love you to contact me with any ideas, suggestions or questions to help make this a really useful resource for you. 🙂 I would really appreciate this feedback.
The best way to contact me at the moment is by email. Also, please feel welcomed to sign up for the newsletter at the top right corner of this webpage. I promise I won’t spam you, although a couple of kids at primary school used to call me spam (rhymes with Sam you know), so in effect you could say I was ‘spamming’ you. Whilst on that subject, no one actually eats spam over here in England, so I don’t actually know what it tastes like! If anyone could let me know, that would be most accommodating… 🙂