How likely your partner is to cheat – part 2

This post is a follow-up to the article How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1 and consists of a uniquely designed cascading diagram that will determine how likely someone is to cheat in a relationship. Without further ado I present you the diagram, followed by some brief explanations of some of the key features… 🙂

The diagram below should be read from top to bottom as a series of steps, in descending order of importance: Read more

How likely your partner is to cheat – part 1

Men and women who have been cheated on in the past will usually be able to look back and pinpoint certain forewarnings in their partner’s behaviour and develop their own reasons for why it happened. There is a tendency to ignore any of the real relational reasons behind it though and to instead frivolously load all the blame on the cheating partner. Every action has causation and it’s only by understanding and being aware of the causation that will allow you to prevent or deal with what comes of it… in this case, cheating!

I’ve written previously about The ONLY way to prevent your partner cheating and why Cheating on a partner does not matter but a useful thing to know before committing yourself to someone in the form of a monogamous relationship is how likely are they to cheat on you at any point along the way.

There are some people in relationships who in the back of their minds are scared stiff that their partner will cheat on them and will have already imposed strict consequences for finding out that they have. Whilst you never want to turn into a neurotic relationship detective by probing and testing your partner’s fidelity at every opportunity, knowing some of the causes for cheating will ease any concern and help you to focus on the more positive aspects of a relationship.

This article will list three ways that dictate how likely your partner is to cheat… 🙂 Read more

A fundamental flaw in dating and why you should never stop meeting people

A question I often get asked is “does your girlfriend mind that you are a dating coach?” As part of that aspect of my work, I often take guys out into the real world and demonstrate how easy it is to meet people of the opposite sex, so to put their question another way, does Heidi mind that I approach other women? The truth is that even if I didn’t work as a dating coach I would still approach other women! Before I procure a heavy backlash from that statement, let me explain what I mean… 🙂

Attractive people in relationships:

One of the saddest aspects of relationships is that they can turn even the most attractive person into their antithesis over time. Have you ever had a friend who has suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth after getting into a serious relationship? Or, have you ever come out of a long relationship only to feel clueless as to how to succeed in the dating world again? Both of these questions are answered by analysing the contrasting mindsets between people in relationships and those same people when they are not in a relationship. Read more

How to get out of the friend zone

The ‘friend zone’ is a common dating situation where one person develops feelings for someone with whom their relationship has previously always been purely platonic. The friend zone can also refer to a situation where one person openly reveals a romantic interest in someone else only for the feelings not to be reciprocated. This second description is commonly referred to as the “let’s just be friends” syndrome due to the fact that phrase is a common response to unwanted romantic interest from a friend.

It is typically more common for men to find themselves in situations regarding the friend zone, as women generally have more dating options available to them and as a consequence can differentiate between emotional attachment and sexual attraction more easily. In fact, of my male clients, a fairly high percentage come to me directly from the situation that there is someone specific who they want to win over. My advice to those people is usually the same: in order to get one woman, you have to be able to get ALL women!

This article is going to dissect the psychology behind having romantic feelings for a friend before describing the only reliable techniques to starting a relationship with someone who you are firmly in the ‘friend zone’ with… 🙂 Read more

Is going on a break good or bad?

“I think we should take a break!”

It’s the phrase that everyone in a relationship dreads to hear from their girlfriend or boyfriend and rightly so! Going on a break is rarely as innocent as it sounds and is indubitably the result of one or many problems manifesting in a relationship.

If a couple are going through a bad patch in their relationship then going on a break seems like an easy temporary solution for a confusing situation. As this article will explain, it can end up being either the inspiration for rectifying the relationship or it can be the immediate demise of the relationship. It depends solely on how it is approached and the real reasoning behind it!

This article will list a few common reasons for wanting to go on a break along with advice for both people involved before offering some alternative routes of action that stem from more assertive behaviour than what going on a break represents… 🙂

Reasons for going on a break:

The ultimatum of going on a break is rarely a mutual decision… but it is often a mutual feeling! At the very least it is evidence of someone taking CONTROL over problems in their relationship and even if there is one notable event that acts as a catalyst for the decision, the thoughts and feelings of going on a break have probably been brewing for some time. Read more